The apostle Paul wisely counseled Christians, including married couples: “[You should be] doing nothing out of contentiousness or out of egotism, but with lowliness of mind considering that the others are superior to you, keeping an eye, not in personal interest upon just your own matters, but also in personal interest upon those of the others. ” ​ — Philippians 2: 3, 4.
در زندگی مشترک نیز مرد یا زن خودخواه اغلب با یکدندگی می‌خواهد حرف خود را به کرسی بنشاند .‏