For example, if you are annoyed by your mate’s untidiness, you can respectfully say, ‘ When you come home from work and leave your clothes on the floor [the when and what of the problem], I feel that my efforts to care for the home are not appreciated [explains exactly how you feel]. ’
Misalnya, jika Anda kesal karena pasangan Anda kurang rapi, Anda dapat dengan penuh respek berkata, ’ Kalau kamu pulang kerja dan menaruh pakaian di lantai [kapan dan apa masalahnya], saya merasa upaya saya untuk mengatur rumah tidak dihargai [jelaskan persisnya bagaimana perasaan Anda]. ’