After careful thought and prayer and consultation with his mate and children, a family head must decide.
وَلٰكِنْ عَلَيْهِ أَوَّلًا أَنْ يُفَكِّرَ فِي ٱلْمَسْأَلَةِ جِدِّيًّا وَيُصَلِّيَ وَيَسْتَشِيرَ زَوْجَتَهُ وَأَوْلَادَهُ .‏