Do not conclude that you and your mate will lose the respect of the elders if you seek spiritual assistance and discuss a serious marital problem with them.
وَيُسَرُّ ٱلشُّيُوخُ ،‏ ٱلَّذِينَ يَخْدُمُونَ رُعَاةً لِلرَّعِيَّةِ ،‏ أَنْ يَمْنَحُوكَ مَشُورَةً مِنَ ٱلْأَسْفَارِ ٱلْمُقَدَّسَةِ ٱلْمُوحَى بِهَا .‏