For example, Pam ​ — who lost her husband, Ian, six years ago — ​ says: “People sometimes tell me good things that Ian did that I never knew about, and that makes my heart feel good. ”
لكنَّ تقارير الباحثين تذكر ان الاصدقاء يندفعون في البداية الى تعزية المحزونين .‏