Rather than fret over the manner of discipline, try to recognize that there may be a reason for the way they act.
كَيْفَ نُعَالِجُ ٱلْمَشَاكِلَ ٱلْعَائِلِيَّةَ لِئَلَّا تَحْرِمَنَا مِنَ ٱلْجَائِزَةِ ؟‏