Cold disdain may result when a grievance has not been fully resolved. But harboring resentment for past wrongs is futile.
وَإِذَا ٱشْتَدَّ ٱنْفِعَالُكَ وَشَعَرْتَ بِأَنَّكَ سَتَفْقِدُ ضَبْطَ نَفْسِكَ ،‏ فَٱتْبَعْ حَضَّ ٱلْأَمْثَالِ ١٧ :‏ ١٤‏ :‏ « اِنْصَرِفْ قَبْلَ ٱنْفِجَارِ ٱلْخُصُومَة » .‏