Input: Write a chapter for a guidebook on kissing that focuses on advanced techniques and tricks to take your kissing to the next level. The chapter should include a list of different techniques such as using temperature, tickling, biting, and underwater kissing. It should also provide advice on sharing drinks and candy during a kiss, and suggest some movies with iconic kissing scenes to watch for inspiration. Finally, the chapter should discuss the importance of flavor in kissing, including tips on how to enhance your natural flavor and recommendations for flavored lip products.

Response:
**_Chapter 7_**

**TAKE YOUR KISSING TO THE NEXT LEVEL**

Being a great kisser isnt just knowing the techniques of a good kiss, though that certainly helps. No, what transforms a good kiss into a badass, knee-buckling experience is having a few wicked tricks ready for action, anytime. Want to make him do a double-take the next time you kiss? Or make that first kiss the most arousing hes ever tasted by giving it a little twist hes never experienced?

Dont just make yourself the master of the kiss with advanced tricks and treats. Be a kiss guru to lovers and friends by learning tricks that are turn-ons and tricks that make kissing more pleasant for everyone. Tell your friends how to give kisses that taste like their lovers favorite candy, or be the bringer of sage advice on how to cope with  stubble and the rash from mega mack sessions that result in beard burn.

Best of all, these tricks and treats make your kissing world a lot spicier. Make your kisses legendary, the stuff of campfire tales, with advanced kissing techniques passed down through the ages from secret kissing societies and kissing masters, revealed here for the very first time.

# **Tricks and Treats**

_**Cold.**_ Chill the temperature of your mouth with ice or a cold drink before a kiss. Ice cream cools and flavors your mouth. You can even pass an ice cube mouth to mouth. This is a fun surprise trick.

_**Heat.**_ Make your mouth very warm before a kiss for an exciting surprise. Swish a hot beverage around for a second or two, swallow, then give him a kiss.

_**Tickle.**_ Point your tongue into a hard tip and use it to tickle any area you like by flickering it in short, rapid movements.

_**Bite.**_ Easy, now—take small, light bites with your teeth on lips, tongue, or areas of skin. Start very light, and be aware that some guys may not want you to bite them at all, or to leave marks (for a variety of reasons). If he appears to like it (moaning, pushing into your mouth), bite just a little bit harder. Give him almost what he wants—then a little bit more.

_**Underwater.**_ While swimming, pull him under the surface for a smooch. The cold water will intensify the warmth of your mouths, and the water around the seal your mouths make feels amazing. A fun variation is kissing in the shower or under a waterfall.

_**Upside down.**_ This is a lot of fun, and a very playful way to kiss. No one has to hang from a fire escape like Spider-Man (though it looks like fun), and it doesnt take a lot of coordination. One of you hangs your head off the edge of a bed, over the arm of a couch, or off the side of a swimming pool, and see what its like to match mouths upside down.

_**Tongue suction.**_ This is a very naughty trick—you essentially treat your partners tongue as if it were a sensual lollipop, and give a little gentle in-and-out suction. Make a small _O_ shape with your mouth around his tongue, apply a little suction, and slide your lips back and forth, up and down his tongue. Vary your suction and rhythm, and pause intermittently to let the sensations sink in.

_**Sharing a drink.**_ Have you ever really _shared_ a drink? Hold a small amount of delicious drink, such as Champagne or ambrosial fruit juice, in your mouth, and when you kiss, let a sip drain into his mouth. The sexier the beverage, the better. Daring kissers can employ this technique from above, letting the liquid literally drip into his  waiting mouth. To start, sip the liquid, kiss him, let a little bit slip into his mouth, then pull away as more liquid comes out. If it gets messy, lick it off his lips, chin, and neck.

_**Sharing candy.**_ Decadent and delicious, nothing beats a slow-melting piece of butterscotch or peppermint shared by two. Pop it in your mouth, enjoy, and then pass it with a kiss. After a while, ask for it back. Repeat until the candy is gone. You can do this over the course of a party, movie, or make-out session. Can also be done with chewing gum.

_**Sizzling candy.**_ Some candies "pop" or fizz when they make contact with the wet surface of your tongue. Shared by two, these candies can give a French Kiss quite a kick.

_**Wind tunnel.**_ Suck the air from your partners mouth, either slowly or rapidly, depending on the mood. Breathe hot air back in. This can progress to breathing into each others mouth, a highly charged, sexy game.

_**Swap techniques.**_ Tell him you want to be kissed using a technique he really enjoys receiving, then switch and kiss him in one of the ways you really like to be kissed. This is a fantastic way to learn what he likes and to show him what techniques you like best.

_**A Smooch with a View: Best Movie Kisses to Watch Together for Inspiration**_

_**A Room with a View**_ , Helena Bonham Carter and Julian Sands

Shes ambushed in a field of beautiful flowers.

_**Blade Runner**_ , Harrison Ford and Sean Young Sexy, beat-up tough guy kissing scene that sizzles.

_**Bull Durham**_ , Susan Sarandon and Kevin Costner An outrageous build-up to an outrageous kiss.

_**Casablanca**_ , Humphrey Bogart and Ingrid Bergman

A searing good-bye kiss.

_**Gone with the Wind**_ , Clark Gable and Vivien Leigh

The ultimate conflict-turned-passionate kiss.

_**The Matrix Reloaded**_ , Keanu Reeves and Monica Bellucci

She wants to know what Neos true love (Trinity) experiences when they kiss.

_**Notorious**_ , Cary Grant and Ingrid Bergman Long, unusual, playful, arousing.

_**Sixteen Candles**_ , Molly Ringwald and Michael Schoeffling

Unforgettable, like many first kisses.

_**Some Kind of Wonderful**_ , Mary Stuart Masterson and Eric Stoltz

Kissing lessons that turn into much more.

_**Spider-Man**_ , Kirsten Dunst and Tobey Maguire Deep superhero kisses after a heroic battle cant be beat.

# **Some Other Hot Make-out Flicks**

_Belle de Jour_
_Henry and June_
_Dangerous Liaisons_
_Secretary_ (kinky)
_Eyes Wide Shut_
_The Scent of Green Papaya_
_Y tu mamá también_

# **Flavored Kisses**

Do you taste good? Flavor your mouth with candy, tasty herbs (mint, basil, fennel), ice cream, or a drink of something delicious. Hell never forget that kiss if it tastes like butterscotch, peppermint, chocolate, or even something more exotic like basil, tamarind, or vanilla. Some will even get a charge out of the flavor of coffee or wine. But your kissee wont be back for more if your mouth is stale or tastes like an ashtray.

When you know youll be with someone you want to kiss, keep flavorful items nearby to make your mouth yummier. In a pinch, at a restaurant or bar, you can chew on a variety of garnishes readily available—some might even be in your cocktail glass or sitting demurely on the edge of your dinner plate.

_**Flavor Psychology**_

To be: cool
Nibble: mint

To be: sassy
Nibble: lemon

To be: playful
Nibble: lime

To be: brazen
Nibble: basil leaves

To be: mischievous
Nibble: parsley

To be: feisty
Nibble: ginger

To be: naughty
Nibble: a cherry

To be: dirty
Nibble: an olive

Some items might sound good for flavoring your mouth but are really a bad idea. These include mouthwash (especially Listerine), cough drops, garlic, nuts and seeds (too grainy, yuck), Cheetos, and artificially flavored drinks or snacks, which often leave a sour aftertaste. Never try to cover up strong flavors (such as the garlic you ate at dinner) with gum or mints—it never works, and tastes really gross.

_**Kissing Flavor Favorites**_

❀ mints—Altoids are intense!
❀ butterscotch candy
❀ red wine
❀ Champagne
❀ peaches
❀ cassis
❀ vanilla
❀ chocolate
❀ watermelon
❀ cinnamon
❀ licorice
❀ bubble gum
❀ honey
❀ sex

Its important to keep in mind that there might be flavor factors going on in your body that can adversely affect your flavor from within. Multivitamins can make your mouth taste like a health food store. Antihistamines (and drugs in general, be they prescription or otherwise) can make you taste like chemicals. And strong foods such as curries, garlic, asparagus, broccoli, beets, and red meats will affect your flavor as well. Cigarettes will make you taste like tobacco at best, and like an ashtray at worst.

You can, of course, sweeten yourself from within. If you take vitamins or antihistamines, try to drink lots of water and citrus juices to neutralize the funk these pills leave behind. Make your essence sweeter by adding citrus and other fruits, honey, and cucumber to your diet. Pineapple, lemon, lime, mango, papaya, banana, fresh ginger, and vanilla all make you taste great, and a few days of drinking creative smoothies with these ingredients will make your mouth into a decadent, kissable dessert.

# **Flavored Lipsticks and Gloss**

Remember junior high school, when the big thing was gooey-sweet strawberry lip gloss? Well, times have changed, and todays flavored and scented lipsticks and glosses  come in a variety of consistencies, colors, and flavors. To see a selection of the yummy treats you can spike your smooches with, take a trip to your nearest department store cosmetics counter or to Sephora. There are over a dozen makeup brands with gloss flavors in everything from latte to raspberry frosting, even chocolate martini. These lines of lip glosses add light sparkle and shine while flavoring and scenting your lips with candy flavors such as caramel, cherry, mocha, and more. And to make your kisses more alluring and interesting, the gloss in most of these products plumps up your lips a bit and tingles—a sensation that can be felt by both kissers.

MAC makes vanilla gloss, and Stila has passion fruit, watermelon, lime, and more. On the opposite end of the spectrum is the daily wear lipstick by Chanel, which is not flavored but smells literally like roses, a far cry from stinky, waxy-smelling drugstore shades.

Flavored glosses and lipsticks make your lips smell inviting and taste sweet, but theyre not for everyone. A fresh application combined with a heavy make-out session will have you both sticky from ear to ear, a natural, sometimes fun consequence, but one to consider. Some guys dont like lipsticks or glosses on their kissing partners, preferring to kiss _au naturel_ instead.

When in doubt, ask. And dont forgo something you  really like for the sake of only one guy. On the other hand, many men will enjoy that you went the extra step to make kissing a little sexier, a little naughtier, and they wont mind a little stickiness for the sake of good, not-too-clean fun. If hes worried about messing it up, tell him youve got plenty more where that came from.

Youre not limited to lip gloss if you want add an extra something to your kisses, and you dont have to color your lips if you only want to play around with scent or sensation. Lip moisturizers often contain menthols that cool and tingle your lips, resulting in a decadent icy-hot feeling. And when you kiss, its a sensation shared by two! Look for brands such as Carmex and Blistex Medicated. Last, but not least, if youre looking to shine up your lips by adding glitter, know that it will turn your kisses into an abrasive, exfoliating, grit-in-the-teeth experience.

_**Set the Mood with Music to Make Out By**_

"A Love Supreme," by John Coltrane
"Avalon," by Roxy Music
"Dummy," by Portishead
"Endtroducing," by DJ Shadow
"Exile," by Gary Newman
"Fear of Fours," by Lamb
"Heaven or Las Vegas" and "Victorialand,"
by Cocteau Twins
"Into the Night," by Julee Cruise
"Kind of Blue" and "Sketches of Spain," by Miles Davis
"Ki Oku," by DJ Krush
"Le roi est mort," by Enigma
"Lets Get Lost," by Chet Baker
"Mezzanine," by Massive Attack
"Passion Soundtrack," by Peter Gabriel
"Play," by Moby
"So Tonight that I Might See," by Mazzy Star
"Telegraph," by Bjork
any album by Al Green
any album by Barry White
any album by Billie Holliday

# **Stubble Burn—and How to Avoid It**

When he nuzzles your neck like a big happy kitty and he has just a hint of stubble, it can feel delicious in that scratchy-rough-yummy kind of way. But if you smooch for any period of time and he has short, prickly stubble, it can become quite uncomfortable and leave you with an angry burn—on your face and lips! Exfoliation, the hard way. The more vigorous, intense, and extended the session, the higher your risk for rash. Some men grow facial hair faster than others, and a number of guys have stubble that seems razor sharp the minute it pokes out of his skin. When hes so kissable you have to throw caution to the wind, there are a few things both of you can do to ease the sting of stubble burn.

First, know that a mack session with a stubbly guy is going to be like using a dry exfoliant on your face and lips. Try to go into the kissing session without washing or moisturizing your face, as your tender or moist face will just make you more susceptible to irritation. Afterward, wash your face and lips gently with a soothing cleanser and pat dry. Apply a moisturizer that is noncomedogenic, fragrance-free, and doesnt contain any mineral oils; otherwise, your face will break out or become irritated. If youre bright red and feeling the burn more than usual, use a moisturizer with aloe vera. Dont exfoliate the areas for at least two days.

There are many things he can do to help. He should be shaving with a really good, brand-new razor: opinions are heavily in favor of the Gillette Mach 3. Of course, if he skips a day or two of shaving, the stubble will be much softer and more comfortable to kiss than fresh stubble. Very short stubble, say, about 5-10 hours old, can be the most painful type, as the hairs are at their shortest and most inflexible. Ideally, he should skip a day of shaving, and then take great care to soften the stubble with hot water, hot towels, or even an application of hair conditioner.

Both parties should use a good lip salve afterward to condition the lips and help them heal. Blistex Clear Advance is the most highly recommended in this category.


Input: Write a chapter for a guidebook on kissing that focuses on becoming a 'make-out artist'. The chapter should provide tips on creating a connection, building confidence, and using body language to attract and seduce. It should also discuss techniques for building tension and accelerating attraction without giving away too much. Finally, the chapter should offer advice on different styles of kissing, including light and flirty or down and dirty, and provide a checklist of items to bring for a successful make-out session.

Response:
**_Chapter 8_**

**THE MAKE-OUT ARTIST**

Being a make-out artist is all about style and confidence. Armed with the tips presented in this guide, you now have dozens of foolproof techniques for kissing your man _du jour_ from start to finish—even better, from head to toe. As a freshly styled kissing artist, you dont need to set your sights on world domination or creating an army of male slaves. Perhaps youre just tired of being the "good girl" kisser, and youd like to be the man-magnet for a change. Or maybe youre on the prowl for a down-and-dirty fling.

You dont even have to be a saucy dresser to be a first-rate kisser; you can employ your powers to attract, seduce, and kiss unforgettably anytime, anyplace, in any guise. This chapter will help you put your newfound tools  together to become a femme fatale kisser: chemistry, technique, subtle manipulation through body language, and of course, mind control. This is going to make you a legendary make-out artist.

# **Create a Connection**

In chapter 1 of this book I talked about chemistry and making a connection with your physical cues. To get the make-out session started, its all about the messages you send—your body language gives him the right idea. Focus that language through your eyes. Even though youve got the techniques rehearsed and have styled those prettiedup lips to perfection, eye contact is truly the focus of all your efforts. Every move you make hinges on what you do with your eyes. If you keep your eyes closed in movie-kiss imitation bliss, no guy will think you are interested—or _interesting_ —for real.

Anyone can make out by pretending to surrender to the moment with dreamy closed eyes, or staring at his lips (preferably not at the floor, or the clock)—but an artful lover makes eye contact whenever possible. Not all the time; as with driving, youll want to keep your eyes moving. Direct them to the places you want him to think you find interesting, like his lips and neck, and where he puts his hands— but always come back to the center of who he is: his eyes. Most important of all, this will make him feel special and draw him in even closer.

Reel him in like a fish, and keep smiling. The easiest way to disarm, relax, and intrigue a man is with a smile. Even a light smile while kissing will make you appear that much more inviting. As you kiss, let a smile dance constantly on your lips. This really turns guys on: knowing hes the one making you smile is an instant hook. It boosts his ego like crazy. A smile also sends him the message that you have a great sense of humor, youre approachable and open, and being around you is safe and a good time.

# **Keep Your Confidence High**

He might be making the moves, but youre really the one in the drivers seat at all times—and you know it. While making out, stay aware of how you look from the outside. Borrow bits and pieces of your kissing moves from kissing scenes in films you think are hot. (See chapter 7, "A Smooch with a View: Best Movie Kisses to Watch Together for Inspiration.") If you ever get a chance to peep at another couple making out, watch skilled kissers and sexy vixens closely to see how they smile, make eye contact, hold their heads, and laugh. These skills are a snap to make your  own. Take mental notes, and try them out.

Make your make-out strategies "idiot proof" by going over the techniques in this book step by step, repeatedly, and dont leave anything to the last minute. Prepare yourself carefully to make sure you feel comfortable beforehand: you feel sexy in your outfit, you have a few topics to chat about, and you have a backup plan if the make-out session fizzles.

If youre klutzy, plan to distract him by giggling when you bonk noses. Smile wickedly at your prey when you happen to spill your mimosa all over the hors doeuvres as you run your hands through his hair. Act as if to say, _I meant to do that. Watch me now!_ A sense of humor layered with a sense of erotic purpose and determination will make him forget all about the spilled drink—especially if you reveal a bit of cleavage when you mop it up. Then you get to say, as professionally and seriously as possible, "Now, where were we?"

Dont worry about your body image—its all in the lips, the head, and the hips. Youve got a sexy boy toy lined up as your erotic plaything: this situation wont be around forever, so make the most of what youve got to offer. Chances are, youre a lot sexier than you think—because sexy comes from inside, not outside. If youre worried about stacking up to others, in breast size or some other measurement, remember that bigger boobs wont make you sexier, theyll just make you someone with big boobs. Big breasts dont make you a hot kisser, either. And yes, men can say insensitive, critical, inappropriate things. If you find yourself making out with one of these clueless dudes, change the channel. Excuse yourself, and go make out with someone more worthy of your mad skills.

# **Build Tension**

Youll start any make-out session with an appropriate choice of opening kisses: Chapter 2 tells you how to get started. Continue with an assortment of techniques described in chapter 4, including the Sweetheart Kiss, the Lusty Kiss, the Kama Sutra Kiss, Eskimo and Angel Kisses (starting out with no lips), or even the jump-him-now Mad Mack Attack Kiss. Then, once youve started that fire, turn up  the heat by building erotic tension with your hands.

Move your hands to the part of your body where you want to focus his attention: the nape of the neck, eyes, lips, cleavage, or lower. Straighten your clothing (even though you know its going to have to be straightened again), smooth your hair back, coyly replace a fallen bra strap. Or reach over and smooth out a wrinkle on his shirt or trousers.

Every once in a while, between kisses, touch yourself in ways that are suggestive, but never _too_ outrageous. Naughty girl—you can even pretend your hands are his eyes. If youre seated, rub your calves or smooth your hands over your legs. Rub your hands over your arms almost as if you are cold, but slowly. Glide your hand across the back of your neck, feeling the softness of your skin, and even give it a momentary, gentle, stress-relieving rub. Rest your hands on your hips, or on your thighs.

Use your feet as well—feet are quite sexy. Take off a shoe and rub your ankle or foot. Or let one foot do a little recon, sneaking forward to touch his toe for a moment as if by accident, then back. Good feet, doing the dirty work. Then let one foot sneak up against his foot and apply a steady pressure, bringing his attention to the possibilities of both of your bodies touching. Gauge his reaction. See if he returns your pressure or moves away.

# **Accelerate His Attraction (without Giving Away Too Much)**

A good speaker will stand so that his or her body is "open" to everyone listening, especially toward one person in particular. A make-out artist will do exactly the same while kissing. Have your feet apart, knees together (for now, anyway), and keep your arms open and uncrossed. Try to keep your head tilted down slightly to suggest directness in your kissing focus. Keep eye contact, but mix it up. Youre one-on-one, so keep your eye contact consistent while kissing, but take 5-to-10-second visual breaks to let him look at you, too.

If hes primed for more and you want to know if you should turn up the heat, hell give you signs and clues that are your green light. Unless hes really pawing on you or taking control, look for these "keep going" gestures: smiles, nods, little "mmh" noises that punctuate the breaks in your kisses, or small physical prompts like mirroring your kisses. Hell show increased attraction with his body (besides the, um, obvious) by leaning into you more, applying more pressure with his lips, and pulling you closer.

Give him what he wants—almost. And then a little bit more. You can direct his hands, which will likely be wandering. If he has them at the small of your back, slide them up your waist and to the sides of your breasts, all  the while kissing, and then back to your waist. Turn down the heat with lighter kisses. Then bring his hands back near your breasts, and turn the heat back up with a hot, passionate kiss and a lower lip nibble. Now pull back for a smile.

# **Make-Out Techniques: Light and Flirty or Down and Dirty**

Review your quiz answers from chapter 1 to see what style of kissing vixen you are, and determine your course of make-out action based on how you scored. Let your inner Sweet Lips, Power Puss, Hot Lips, or Miss Pure Delicious Poison guide the way. Are you a little of each? No problem! Pick the ones you like to make a style all your own.

## _**Sweet Lips Chic**_

Use your loveliest blossoms to attract the bees to your honey: no matter how you want your kissing sessions to go, your best technique depends on your smile, a knowing look, and easy laughter. Make the most of your Sweet Lips techniques by really working up the first-kiss tips. If you identify with the sexy librarian type, the area where you most need polish will be how to get started. Youll get the best guidance from the "First Kiss Dos and Donts" in chapter 2.

_**The attitude:**_ He melts in your mouth, not in your hands.

_**The techniques, in order:**_ First Kiss, Sweetheart Kiss, Angel and Eskimo Kisses, Romantic Kiss, Snuggle Bunny Kisses. Get your specifics from the "Appetizers" and "Dish of the Day" menus in chapter 5.

_**Ideal make-out conditions:**_ Light and sunny. Daytime picnics, beaches, private pretty vistas, romantic walks, sunsets.

_**Make-out checklist:**_ Lip gloss, rose-colored glasses.

## _**Power Puss Vogue**_

Ready to strike the right pose, pucker up, and reel in your bohunk with sass? Power Girl, in this book you get the most from tips about eye contact, and seek out any kissing fix-its in sections on how to deal with guys who dont kiss as well as they look. Youve got the power to pull in anyone you want. You can do what you want with them—be ready to decide whether to go all the way or not.

_**The attitude:**_ Slippery when wet.

_**The techniques, in order:**_ First Kiss, Kama Sutra Kisses, Taste of Whats to Come, French Kiss, Romantic Kisses. Get your finer points from the "Appetizers," "Dish of the Day," and "Dessert" menus in chapter 5.

_**Ideal make-out conditions:**_ Hot and steamy. Bars, clubs, parties (especially theme parties), after-hours bashes, and even on your doorstep as a Goodnight session.

_**Make-out checklist:**_ A sexy scent (perfume, moisturizer, body butter) and tasty lip gloss.

## _**Hot Lips Bombshell**_

Get ready, Bombshell, because when you kiss a boy, hes not going anywhere until you set him free. Delivering a powerful opening kiss is as easy for you as taking candy from a baby boy—and so is letting him know that _youre_ the candy he needs. And youve got the smoldering gaze to back it up. Polish up your pout and make your kissing techniques shine by making the most of tips and tricks on what to do once youre in place and the conversations flowing. You need the most help in focusing on hands, arms, legs, and feet, and using them to your best advantage.

_**The attitude:**_ Dangerous curves.

_**The techniques, in order:**_ Mad Mack Attack, Taste of Whats to Come, Kama Sutra Kisses, French Kiss, Romantic Kisses, more French Kisses. Pick your pinpoint techniques mostly from the "Dish of the Day" and "Dessert" menus in chapter 5.

_**Ideal make-out conditions:**_ Heat wave, all the way. Anything that gets you close and personal is where you can work your magic: an intimate corner of a pub, a booth, in a corner at a wedding dinner, the interrogation room, the scene of the crime, private parties, dark movie theaters, museums, cocktail affairs, and boardroom affairs.

_**Make-out checklist:**_ A compact mirror for lipstick fix-its when you need the pause that refreshes (or you get caught) and super-sexy underwear.

## _**Miss Pure Delicious Poison**_

Men: theyre whats for dinner. Style, panache, and a touch of supervillainess insanity make you the most magnetic and kissable woman in the room, whether youre arriving in an explosion of smoke, gliding in on the backs of your henchmen, or simply sitting on your mechanical throne stroking your fluffy white cat. Who cares if you come on too strong when youre the one holding the ray gun? Making men melt with your lips comes naturally; the only spot you need to perfect is the switch—when things dont go as planned, you get cranky. Dont seek vengeance—just keep your exit strategies in line. And dont forget that turning _down_ the volume of your kissing powers can be just as powerful as cranking them up.

_**The attitude:**_ When Im bad, Im better.

_**The techniques, in order:**_ Mad Mack Attack, Lusty Kiss, Kama Sutra Kisses, French Kiss, reverse Gladiator Kisses, tease him down with  some Sweetheart Kisses, then come back with more French Kisses. Choose heavily from the "Dessert" menu in chapter 5.

_**Ideal make-out conditions:**_ Your affections and your make-out sessions are like a storm. They rage in, wreak havoc, and subside just as quickly. Dramatic conditions suit you best: castles, underground labs, back rooms, rooftops, evil lairs, tech conferences, haunted woods, abandoned shacks, private islands, penthouse suites, ice fortresses, and secret hideouts.

_**Make-out checklist:**_ Daytime disguise in your purse or utility belt, and edible body butter. _**Wicked flirt checklist:**_ Bad girl, good girl. Its an endless cycle. Now youre ready to join the party. Dont leave the house without your utility belt, magic lasso, and kick-ass bag of kissing tricks and techniques. Make notes and try to keep track of your conquests—kissing legends all have lists on their refrigerators, too.


Input: Write a chapter for a guidebook on kissing that focuses on 'kissing games'. The chapter should include both party games and games for two people. For party games, describe rules for games such as Spin the Bottle, Sixty Seconds in Heaven, Kissing Bunny, Pass the Apple, Who's for Dessert?, and The Mystery Kiss. For games just for two, describe rules for games such as Ice Princess, Ice, Ice, Baby (More), Chocolate Kisses, Back to the Drawing Board, Blindfold Swap, Catch Me If You Can, Queen of Hearts, Not a Drinking Game, Macho Man, Stare Down, Hey, Driver: Stop Signs, Anything for a Kiss, and Invisible Ink. The chapter should also suggest variations on these games and provide tips for making them more exciting and enjoyable.

Response:
**_Chapter 9_**

**KISSING GAMES**

Kissing is seductive, kissing is playful; but kissing is also a technique to be learned and refined like an artist, and a skill to be played like an athlete. A girl who is a make-out artist will go down in history as a legend whose kisses are talked about and compared to the finest paintings or the most erotic sculptures a guy would ever want to wrap his lips around. But if you really want to play the game like a skilled gambler, laying down a winning hand the moment you get to his table, I know youre ready if youve learned the techniques in this book. And when it comes to kissing games, I know youre going to play to _win_.

As of this writing, there is yet to be a Kissing Olympics, though every Valentines Day around the world,  various cities hold kissing contests. Power Puss alert: can you imagine finding the guy youd kiss forever, and then showing the world you actually can? Well, in Nanning, China, theres a kissing contest in which one couple kissed for seven hours nonstop to win. But thats nothing compared to the Houston, Texas, couple who kissed for 22 hours straight in 2009: a bridal company organized the "Longest Kiss Contest" to win a dream wedding. Hopefully, the grand prize included a case of medical-grade ChapStick.

Its one thing to be primed to win a gold medal for kissing—that makes you a top player. Its another to have a roster of kissing games at your disposal, and to know which game would be most suitable in a particular situation, so you can walk away the smiling champ. There are games for two and games for groups. Now its time to learn the games, and the rules of engagement. Even if youre already engaged.

# **Party Games**

Youve got the right attitude and the skills to pay the lip gloss bills; now its time to show whos the Queen. At racy parties where there are a number of hotties out and about, the best way to break the ice is with a kissing game. You can play kissing games in large or small groups, in a room off to the side or in the middle of the show—for the maximum, delicious tension of seeing whos attracted to whom, and for the pleasure of showing off. Small parties or gatherings can turn entirely into a kissing game. Any way you do it, playing with a crowd of fun-loving, adventurous kissers is a blast. Achieve liftoff with the following kissing party games.

## _**Spin the Bottle**_

_**Requirement:**_ an empty bottle.

The most common kissing game in the world. A group of any size sits in a circle and people take turns spinning an empty bottle. The person spinning the bottle has to kiss whomever the bottle ends up pointing to; the group can self-determine if same-sex kissing is okay, or not—its all in fun. Then the person who was kissed gets to spin the bottle to see whom she kisses next. Variations on this game  include going in a circle to make sure everyone gets a turn and deciding whether the kissers do the deed in front of the group or run off to a closet or bathroom for the kiss.

## _**Sixty Seconds in Heaven**_

_**Requirements:**_ an empty bottle, a private space (closet), red lipstick, and a timer.

This is a classic, handed down through the ages by teenagers of all stripes. Its a great add-on to Spin the Bottle: The person who gets control of the bottle spins it twice and sends the random couple into a closet for 60 seconds. To increase the stakes, the pair must prove that they shared a kiss—with red lipstick. To play this game to win, one partner slathers their lips with the red lipstick and kisses the other as many times as possible on any area of exposed skin (face, neck, arms, etc.), leaving one lip print for each kiss. When the 60 seconds is up, the closet is opened and lip prints are counted. The pair who left the most lip prints wins. This game can also be played with pairs of already-established couples—each pair of love bunnies gets 60 seconds to kiss as much as possible and win the game.

## _**Kissing Bunny**_

_**Requirements:**_ a stuffed animal (like a bunny).

Sit in a circle and arrange yourselves either guy/girl or randomly; youll be kissing whomever sits next to you. The stuffed bunny is the stunt bunny—the kissing double. One person takes the bunny and kisses it where theyd like to be kissed, then passes the bunny to the person on their right. The recipient has to kiss them on that spot. Then the person with the bunny kisses the bunny, passes it to the right, and gets their kiss, and so on. After one full circle, reverse the process and pass the bunny to the left. Variations: no part of the bunny can be kissed twice; or, for true gamblers, combine it with Spin the Bottle.

## _**Pass the Apple**_

_**Requirements:**_ a few apples.

A circular seating arrangement is best for this one as well, so arrange yourselves either guy/girl or randomly; youll be kissing whomever sits next to you. One person takes an apple in their mouth and bites it, then passes it with their mouth to the person on their right. The recipient has to receive the apple using only their mouth, grabbing it with a bite. This will take some giggly coordination  between the two of them. The apple will get smaller and smaller—until you need a new apple. After one full circle, reverse the process and pass the apple to the left.

## _**Whos for Dessert?**_

_**Requirements:**_ whipped cream, chocolate sauce, cherries, or any other lickable dessert topping thats handy.

This game can be played going around the circle or with the randomness of Spin the Bottle. The person who gets to receive the kiss takes the whipped cream or topping and places it where theyd like to have their "kiss." They can put it wherever they want, or you can set limits. The person who spun the bottle (or whoevers turn it is to do the kissing/licking) has to creatively kiss or nibble the dessert topping off.

## _**The Mystery Kiss**_

_**Requirements:**_ blindfolds, scarves, ties, or handkerchiefs.

Separate an even number of guys and girls (or however you want to mix it up) and stand across the room from  each other, with the men blindfolded. Each girl selects a guy, quietly walks over and kisses him, making sure not to let him know who she is. Playing music will help hide any noise that might give your identity away. After each girl gives a guy a kiss, the ladies line up across the room from the men. The boys take off their blindfolds and try to guess who kissed them. If the boy guesses correctly, the girl is "out." The game continues until there is only one left. Next, swap blindfolds and the guys get their turn.

# **Games Just for Two**

Are you ready to go one-on-one? A little hand-to-hand, or lips to—other places? Kissing games for two are a great way to melt the ice (literally, in one of these games) or spice up what might be an ordinary date, an evening around the house, or anytime you want to make the most of whats right in front of you.

## _**Ice Princess**_

_**Requirement:**_ a drink with ice cubes in it or a cup of ice.

Get an ice cube; start with it in your mouth, running it over his lips, his cheek and jaw, down his neck, or even his forearms and the sensitive hollow in the palm of his hand. Continue back up to his mouth and then its his turn.

## _**Ice, Ice, Baby (More)**_

_**Requirements:**_ a drink with ice cubes in it or a cup of ice, and a timer.

Lay your victim down and place an ice cube on his stomach. Then have him gently sit up, allowing the ice cube to slide down his stomach. Wherever it lands, you have to lick and kiss for exactly one minute.

## _**Chocolate Kisses**_

_**Requirements:**_ fudge sauce or warmed chocolate syrup, and a spoon or paintbrush.

A delicious turn-on that lets you tease and tempt, or even draw or write messages on your lovers body. With a bottle of hot fudge or chocolate syrup in hand, have your partner lie down or lean back in a comfy chair. Take his  shirt off (or pull it up) and draw or paint on a part of his body with the chocolate. Now lick and kiss it off.

## _**Back to the Drawing Board**_

_**Requirements:**_ lipstick and edible body paints (or colorful dessert topping).

Lightly draw lip prints someplace on your partners exposed skin (lipstick or gourmet body paint works well for this). Then fill each of those marks with your own lips! This is especially fun with the body paints.

## _**Blindfold Swap**_

_**Requirements:**_ two blindfolds, scarves, ties, or handkerchiefs.

Both partners blindfold each other. Without using your hands, take turns giving exactly ten kisses to each other.

## _**Catch Me If You Can**_

Tell him you want him to give you one kiss but youre not going to let him. When he tries to kiss your cheek, turn your head. If he aims for your lips, duck so he gets your nose. Spice it up by teasing him a little: when hes the one resisting your kisses, try to persuade him to give in and let you kiss him. This is a great game for a dating couple.

## _**Queen of Hearts**_

_**Requirements:**_ a deck of playing cards.

Remove all the hearts from a deck of ordinary playing cards. One of you shuffles the hearts, fans them out between you, and the other randomly chooses a card that decides how many kisses you will give. Variation: use dice and assign the following body parts to a six-sided die:

1\. : cheek

2\. : forehead

3\. : lips/mouth

4\. : neck

5\. : palm of the hand

6\. : anything goes

## _**Not a Drinking Game**_

_**Requirement:**_ a film that includes a repetitive activity that could be used for a typical "drinking game." Examples: watching _The Thin Man_ and taking a drink every time the characters do; watching a Coen Brothers film and drinking every time an expletive (such as _f**k_ ) is used; whenever Buffy kills a vampire. You can even watch kissing movies, as recommended in chapter 7.

Whenever the repetitive activity (drinking, swearing, vampire slaying) happens onscreen, you and your partner kiss, but you cant touch each other in any other way until the movie is over.

## _**Macho Man**_

_**Requirement:**_ a guy who brags about how strong he is.

Does he think hes tough? Tough enough to get to kiss you? Challenge him to do a set of push-ups—where you make the rules. Lie flat on your back on the floor with your arms at your sides. His assignment is to "drop and give you twenty"—twenty kisses. He does push-ups over you, and every time he comes down he gets a reward: a kiss.

## _**Stare Down**_

You and your partner have a staring contest; the goal is not to blink. The longer you keep your eyes open, the longer he gets to kiss you.

## _**Hey, Driver: Stop Signs**_

While the two of you are driving, if you come to a stop sign that is a three- or four-way stop, the passenger has to kiss the driver that many times.

## _**Anything for a Kiss**_

Here, almost anything goes: except kissing. The object of the game is to try to get him to kiss you by doing as you wish to him. You can do anything to lure him to your lips, but you cannot kiss him. Then switch, and he does the same to you. The person to last the longest without giving in wins.

## _**Invisible Ink**_

With the tip of your tongue, spell a word on the upturned palm of his hand—or the inside of his forearm, his neck, or for the more adventurous, a place he cant see at all. If you want, spell out an instruction, such as "Kiss my right shoulder." If he gets it right, he either follows the instruction (which is its own reward) or gets to kiss you once anywhere he likes. If he gets it wrong, you get to do what you want to him. Take turns spelling words with your tongue.

## _**The Magic Word**_

Each of you decides on a particular word at the beginning of the day, or on a day you have scheduled for a date, but dont tell each other what it is. Throughout the day (or during the date), if either of you says the other persons word, you have to drop everything and kiss the other person immediately.


Input:
Q: What is the main theme of the book?
A: The main theme of the book is about the art of kissing, including tips, techniques, and advice on how to make it a memorable experience.

Q: What is the tone of the book?
A: The tone of the book is playful, humorous, and informative.

Q: Who is the intended audience of the book?
A: The intended audience of the book is anyone interested in improving their kissing skills or learning more about the art of kissing.

Q: What topics are covered in Chapter 1?
A: Chapter 1 covers the secret society of kissing artists, what's in a kiss, and kissing kung fu techniques.

Q: What is the purpose of the quiz in Chapter 1?
A: The purpose of the quiz in Chapter 1 is to help readers identify their kissing style and preferences.

Q: What is the focus of Chapter 2?
A: The focus of Chapter 2 is on how to initiate a kiss and make it happen anywhere, anyplace, and anytime.

Q: What advice is given on making the first move in Chapter 2?
A: Advice on making the first move in Chapter 2 includes tips on how to signal your interest, build anticipation, and confidently lean in for a kiss.

Q: What is the focus of Chapter 3?
A: The focus of Chapter 3 is on how to make your mouth irresistible, including tips on hot lips, talented tongues, mouth moves, and the wicked kisser.

Q: What are some of the techniques for delivering a knockout kiss discussed in Chapter 5?
A: Some of the techniques for delivering a knockout kiss discussed in Chapter 5 include building anticipation, using appetizers to tease, making the main kiss memorable, and adding dessert to seal the deal.

Q: What is the purpose of Chapter 6?
A: The purpose of Chapter 6 is to provide tips on the dos and don'ts of kissing, as well as how to avoid or handle kiss catastrophes and remedies.

Q: What is the focus of Chapter 7?
A: The focus of Chapter 7 is on taking your kissing to the next level, including tips on tricks and treats, flavored kisses, and avoiding stubble burn.

Q: What advice is given on building tension in Chapter 8?
A: Advice on building tension in Chapter 8 includes tips on creating a connection, keeping your confidence high, and using make-out techniques to amp up the attraction.

Q: What is the purpose of Chapter 9?
A: The purpose of Chapter 9 is to provide ideas for kissing games, both for parties and for couples.

Q: Who wrote the foreword for the book?
A: William Cane wrote the foreword for the book.

Q: What can readers learn from the field guide in Chapter 4?
A: Readers can learn about the different types of kisses, including scary kisses, and how to identify the hunters and the hunted in the kissing world.

Q: What are some of the rules of the game discussed in Chapter 6?
A: Some of the rules of the game discussed in Chapter 6 include avoiding hickeys and love bites, not overdoing it with tongue action, and avoiding bad breath.

Response:
Table of Contents

Title Page

Foreword by William Cane

Introduction: THE PERFECT KISS

Chapter 1: THE SECRET SOCIETY OF KISSING ARTISTS

Whats in a Kiss?

Kissing Kung Fu: Be at One with the Elements

Kiss Me Deadly, Darling: A Quiz

Chapter 2: MAKE IT HAPPEN: GET THAT KISS ANYWHERE, ANYPLACE, ANYTIME

Waiting Is the Hardest Part

Does He Really Want It?

How to Get Him to Kiss You

How to Ask for a Kiss without Words

Making the First Move

Chapter 3: YOUR MOUTH: HES GOTTA HAVE IT

Hot Lips

Talented Tongue

Mouth Moves

The Wicked Kisser

Sex Up Your Lips, and the Rest Will Follow

Chapter 4: KISSING: A FIELD GUIDE

The Hunters and the Hunted

Types of Kisses

Scary Kisses

Chapter 5: DELIVER A KNOCKOUT KISS

Techniques

Appetizers

Dish of the Day

Dessert

Rock Your Body

Hot Spots

Chapter 6: THE RULES OF THE GAME

Kissing Dos and Donts

About Hickeys and Love Bites

Kiss Catastrophes and Remedies

Chapter 7: TAKE YOUR KISSING TO THE NEXT LEVEL

Tricks and Treats

Flavored Kisses

Flavored Lipsticks and Gloss

Stubble Burn—and How to Avoid It

Chapter 8: THE MAKE-OUT ARTIST

Create a Connection

Keep Your Confidence High

Build Tension

Accelerate His Attraction (without Giving Away Too Much)

Make-Out Techniques: Light and Flirty or Down and Dirty

Chapter 9: KISSING GAMES

Party Games

Games Just for Two

ABOUT THE AUTHOR

Copyright Page


Input:
Q: Who wrote the foreword for the book?
A: William Cane wrote the foreword for the book.

Q: What is the tone of the foreword?
A: The tone of the foreword is humorous, conversational, and informative.

Q: What is the purpose of the foreword?
A: The purpose of the foreword is to introduce the author and the book, as well as to give readers an idea of what they can expect from the content.

Q: What does the author of the foreword think of other books on kissing?
A: The author of the foreword believes that most books on kissing have been wishy-washy and dull, and that they lack hands-on information.

Q: What does the author of the foreword like about the book?
A: The author of the foreword likes that the book is comprehensive, that it is full of tips and tricks, and that it delves deep into the hidden meanings of kissing.

Q: Who does the author of the foreword compare the book's author to?
A: The author of the foreword compares the book's author, Violet Blue, to the iconoclastic Welsh politician and literary analyst Leo Abse, and to the novelist D. H. Lawrence.

Q: What can readers expect to learn from the book?
A: Readers can expect to learn new ideas about kissing, fresh techniques for the French kiss, and kissing games they may never have tried.

Q: Who is the intended audience of the book?
A: The intended audience of the book is anyone interested in improving their kissing skills or learning more about the art of kissing.

Q: What does the author of the foreword recommend for readers?
A: The author of the foreword recommends that readers study the book before their boyfriend or girlfriend does, so they'll have all the advantage in the game of love.

Response:
**_Foreword_**

Im not a rude person as a general matter of form, but if I dont say it chances are that no one else will. The fact is that most books on the subject of kissing have been wishywashy and dull to the point of putting the reader to sleep. They pontificate, they introduce footnotes into the discussion, or they adduce so many irrelevant digressions that youre ready to tear your hair out waiting for something of substance, something that you can actually sink your teeth into when you sit down with the one you dote on, or when you get close enough to feel the heat from the face of that angel who makes your heart throb like a thundering Arabian charger.

Which is why its a distinct pleasure for me to compose a foreword to this comprehensive how-to guide by Violet Blue and to introduce you to her delectable take on the romance and delights of modern kissing.

Just because I wrote a book called _The Art of Kissing_ doesnt mean I refrain from reading other authors on the subject. Nay, nay! On the contrary, Im always studying them for pointers that I can use in my own life, and—like I said—usually being disappointed at the shortage of hands-on information they present. _Not so in the present case!_ Im happy to report that this compendium of tips and tricks is without a doubt the best Ive opened in the past many years. Violet Blue is a person well known to me as a leader in the war against that unfortunate puritanical streak that makes America the laughingstock of enlightened and freethinking Western Europeans. We really need to relax when it comes to topics like intimacy, cuddling, and nibbling on your inamoratas earlobe. In some rather remarkable ways, Violet Blue reminds me of that iconoclastic Welsh politician and literary analyst Leo Abse, whose book on Daniel Defoe is enough to make a high school English teacher blush. In like manner, Violet Blue delves deep into the hidden meanings of kissing, she explores the mind of the kisser like its never been revealed since D. H. Lawrences _Mr. Noon_ , and she uncorks a vast compendium of exotic and erotic lore calculated to tantalize as well as instruct the neophyte and the _Don Juan_ in all of us.

If I can get personal for a moment, the reason I like reading books on kissing is simple. They potentially contain new ideas that even I, who have directed kissing demonstrations at literally hundreds of colleges and universities across North America, can learn from. And I can say with confidence that the most experienced kisser will discover valuable ideas from Violet Blues latest foray into the world of romance. The pages that follow will open your eyes and mind to important new methods of approaching a first kiss, to fresh techniques for the French kiss, and to kissing games you may never have tried. In my opinion, her suggestions for a first kiss (and remember, even if youre in a relationship…theres always at least the _possibility_ of a first romantic kiss with someone _new_ ) are perfectly crafted to guide you through all the psychological and physical joys—and pitfalls—of the process.

Youre on solid ground when you study this book since all the advice is geared to show you how to get the most from your romantic encounters. The chapters that follow are in the grand tradition of all Romantic literature, harking back to the works of Ovid, right on down through the Middle Ages with manuals on courtly love, and up to the present with how-to guides for the rest of us. Whether youre young or old, youre sure to find plenty of good advice in these pages. But read them _before_ your boyfriend or girlfriend does—so _youll_ have all the advantage in the game of love.

William Cane

New York


Input:
Q: Who is the author of the book?
A: Violet Blue

Q: What is the purpose of the introduction?
A: The purpose of the introduction is to set the tone for the book and to give readers an idea of what they can expect to learn from it.

Q: What does the author compare a great kiss to?
A: The author compares a great kiss to watching the ball drop in Times Square on New Years Eve.

Q: What does the author believe about great kisses?
A: The author believes that great kisses are rare but that they don't have to be.

Q: What does the author think is missing from most people's kissing experience?
A: The author thinks that most people lack an owner's manual for how to deliver smooches that stop traffic, start five-alarm fires, and warp the time-space continuum.

Q: What does the author think people can learn from the book?
A: The author thinks that people can learn how to kiss like a movie star and make the one they're kissing feel as if their favorite song just came on the radio every time their lips come together.

Q: What specific topics does the book cover?
A: The book covers topics such as timing a kiss perfectly, delivering and getting a first kiss, asking for kisses with and without words, knowing when someone wants to kiss you, what to do if the person you like turns out to be a bad kisser, solving problems like stubble rash, and what to do when your kiss doesn't turn out the way you planned.

Q: What does the book teach about lipstick?
A: The book teaches how to keep lipstick perfect, no matter how hot and heavy (or wet and messy) a kissing session gets.

Q: What does the author think about kissing as a sport?
A: The author thinks that kissing can be a lighthearted way of sharing intimacy with another person, and that it can be done as a sport, in a kissing booth for charity, or just to find out if someone is more interesting than you thought.

Q: What does the author hope for readers?
A: The author hopes that readers have as much fun putting the book into practice as she did doing the research for it.

Response:
**_Introduction:_**

**THE PERFECT KISS**

A great kiss is like watching the ball drop in Times Square on New Years Eve. Theres the countdown to contact, the moment when your heart flutters from your stomach to your chest, and then—the kiss. You hear the noisemakers, people cheering, horns honking, confetti flies through the air, and youre caught in a vivid moment in time. Your heart warms (or ignites like a fuse). Your perspective changes, your senses sharpen, colors become more vivid, and you just know your brights will come out brighter than ever before. At least, thats what it feels like when the right pairs of lips come together in all the right ways.

Kisses like this are rare—but they dont have to be. Unfortunately, our lips didnt come with an owners  manual to tell us how to deliver smooches that stop traffic, start five-alarm fires, and warp the time-space continuum. Most of us have to figure that out by trial and error, and believe me, it isnt pretty. It messes up your lipstick, screws with your confidence, and you wind up pecking a lot of awful kissers. If only we could spot the lousy kissers, fix the ones we like, and if we just had ninjalike kissing skills, wed be the baddest girls on the block with puckers that make urban legends seem tame.

Thats what this book is for. This is where you learn to kiss like a movie star and make the one youre kissing feel as if his favorite song just came on the radio every time your lips come together. Find out how to time a kiss perfectly, how to deliver and get a first kiss, and how to ask for kisses with and without words. Learn how to know when someone wants to kiss you and what to do if the person you like turns out to be a bad kisser. Solve problems like stubble rash, and what happens when your kiss doesnt turn out the way youd planned. Discover all the kissing dos and donts, and find out all the things you should never do when you kiss someone.

There are oodles of techniques in these pages to help you come up with—and perfect—your very own style for each lucky someone you kiss, no matter if youre a novice kisser or a make-out queen. Sex up your mouth and make  it irresistibly kissable, then supercharge your kisses with advanced tricks, fun games, and tasty treats. Oh, and if you color your pucker, find out how to keep your lipstick perfect, no matter how hot and heavy (or wet and messy) your kissing session gets.

Dont stop with the lips—know your kissees hot spots and get the skinny on how and where to kiss parts of the body thatll make them melt. Learn how to French-kiss like an angel (or a naughty devil) and all the different types of kisses and when to use them. Best of all, learn everything you need to make your first kiss with that special someone absolutely perfect and unforgettable.

Kissing is about chemistry—sometimes a kiss can be the moment we realize were falling in love. The kind of connection experienced with a kiss can rock you to the core. But it doesnt have to be with someone you love—a kiss can be one of the most lighthearted ways of sharing intimacy with another person.

You can kiss as a sport, in a kissing booth for charity, or you can kiss someone just to find out if they are more interesting than you thought—all without commitment to either pair of lips involved. Or, if you choose, kissing can be the most intimate thing you share only with someone you love. But no matter how you kiss, or whom you kiss, you should always make it a doozy.

I hope you have as much fun putting this book into practice as I did doing the research for it.

Smooches,
Violet Blue
San Francisco


Input:
Q: What is the title of Chapter 1?
A: The Secret Society of Kissing Artists

Q: What does the author suggest about the average amount of time women spend kissing?
A: The author suggests that the average woman spends two weeks of her life kissing, but that readers should strive to be more than average.

Q: What does the author think about the sensuality of kissing?
A: The author thinks that kissing is one of the most sensual of all acts of flirting, foreplay, seduction, and sex. In a kiss, you use all of your senses.

Q: What does the author say about the communication that happens in a kiss?
A: The author says that in a kiss, you can communicate desire, urgency, caring, or anything you want, because what youre feeling when you kiss someone can be channeled right through you like an electric charge.

Q: What does the author say about the range of techniques that great kissers know?
A: The author says that great kissers know a variety of techniques that can be applied to a range of situations, tricks to make their kisses unforgettable, and strategies to seduce even the shyest pair of lips.

Q: What does the author say about the importance of confidence and being in touch with all of your senses?
A: The author says that a truly sensual kisser is a girl who feels confident and sexy from within, no matter whether she happens to think she looks "perfect" at the moment, and a great kisser stays in touch with all of her senses before kissing even begins.

Q: What does the author say about the variety of intentions that a kiss can convey?
A: The author says that kissing is a single act that can convey a wide variety of intentions, such as tenderness, affection, nervousness, desire, and lust.

Q: What does the author say about the benefits of kissing?
A: The author says that kissing is good for you and good for everyone around you. It makes you feel emotionally ecstatic, releases the arousal hormone oxytocin, and is good for your teeth.

Q: What does the author say about the fun of kissing?
A: The author says that most of all, kissing is fun.

Q: What does the author say about the purpose of the book?
A: The author says that the purpose of the book is to teach readers how to cast an unforgettable, seductive spell with their lips and to join the legions of women who can melt a man like butter with a kiss.

Q: What does the author say about the range of skill levels that the book is suitable for?
A: The author says that the book is suitable for all skill levels, from beginners to already-great kissers who want to learn more.

Q: What does the author say about the importance of atmosphere and timing in a kiss?
A: The author says that atmosphere and timing are crucial elements in a kiss. A great kiss happens right when it is supposed to, while an ill-timed kiss can ruin everything.

Q: What does the author say about the importance of the right pair of lips?
A: The author says that its got to be the right pair of lips heading for your face, or all bets are off.

Q: What does the author say about the importance of location in a kiss?
A: The author says that location is crucial in a kiss. A kiss in a location that isnt right for one of you can bomb like an attempt to make Titanic into a romantic comedy.

Q: What does the author say about the importance of physical sensation in a kiss?
A: The author says that its got to feel good physically, too. A kiss that feels good sends buzzy, yummy jolts of lust straight to your nethers, while a kiss that feels yucky is a dud.

Q: What does the author say about the importance of feelings in a kiss?
A: The author says that the feelings behind a kiss are like a supporting actor who completes the character and identity of the leading lady. The kiss is an emotional gesture that comes from the heart or a raw animal thing that comes from the groin.

Q: What does the author say about the importance of motive in a kiss?
A: The author says that the motive for your kiss is communicated through your lips at the moment of contact, and it instantly sets the tone for any given smooch.

Q: What does the author say about the importance of technique in a kiss?
A: The author says that technique is the foundation of your kissing style. The technique you use depends on all of the factors and goals mentioned above, or you might just be out for fun, freestyling.

Q: What does the author say about the quiz at the end of the chapter?
A: The author says that the quiz is designed to help readers figure out what kind of kisser they are and to give them a sense of their strengths and weaknesses as a kisser.

Response:
**_Chapter 1_**

**THE SECRET SOCIETY OF KISSING ARTISTS**

The average woman spends two weeks of her life kissing—but what girl wants to be average? Two weeks of smooches just wont do—especially when you want to be the kind of kisser who has them coming back for seconds. And thirds. Maybe an all-you-can-kiss make-out buffet. With the secrets, tips, techniques, and detailed steps to becoming a master kisser in this book, youll be more than the average player: youll be at the top of the kissing game.

Kissing is one of the most sensual of all the acts of flirting, foreplay, seduction, and sex we can enjoy. In a kiss, you use all of your senses—and his too. You feel a kiss with your body, your heart, and your mind. You can communicate desire, urgency, caring—anything you want,  because what youre feeling when you kiss someone can be channeled right through you like an electric charge. The greatest kissers know a variety of techniques that can be applied to a range of situations, tricks to make their kisses unforgettable, strategies to seduce even the shyest pair of lips, and how to jump-start that erotic spark with a first (or second, or third) kiss.

The sensual kisser has a lot more going on than a pair of kissable lips—though Ill tell you all about making your lips silky smooth and utterly irresistible in a bit. A truly sensual kisser is a girl who feels confident and sexy from within, no matter whether she happens to think she looks "perfect" at the moment, and a great kisser stays in touch with all of her senses—before kissing even begins. Its like flipping a light switch: when you know a kiss is about to happen, all of your senses sharpen. And once the kiss starts, everything goes into overdrive as you drink in the taste, the smell, the touch, the sound, the feelings. And the person on the receiving end is hooked.

# **Whats in a Kiss?**

Kissing is a single act that can convey a wide variety of intentions. For instance, one type of kiss, a light, affectionate peck, is a message of tenderness—it can be nonsexual, or a loving reminder. On the other hand, a first romantic kiss, built up to with nervousness and desire, might begin with the softest touch and pull you together like a red-hot magnet. A kiss between lovers is the spark that ignites passions into a blazing fire that may consume you both in a delicious make-out session. This kind of kiss can be more powerful than the need to eat when youre famished. Sometimes the prelude to a kiss is the best part; other times its only a teasing, playful beginning.

One kiss can change everything. It can make friends into so much more. A kiss is the moment when sex and science meet, when we know whether our chemistry matches our desire. A casual encounter might turn into a pivotal, life-changing moment, after which ordinary everyday situations with your friend become lustful encounters. Often, when we kiss someone for the first time, we know instantly whether or not we click with them sexually.

Kissing is also really good for you and good for everyone around you. The act of kissing makes you feel emotionally ecstatic—it stimulates the release of endorphins, natural opiates similar to the delirious rush we feel while running  and when we fall in love. Prolonged sensual kissing releases the arousal hormone oxytocin, essential for orgasm. And its good for our teeth, because the increased flow of saliva washes our teeth in a plaque-dispersing bath. Now, doesnt that sound sexy?

Most of all, kissing is fun. Welcome to the world of kissing bandits and superkissers, where youll learn how to cast an unforgettable, seductive spell with your lips. Youll join the legions of women who can melt a man like butter with a kiss, are always the first ones picked for the kissing booth, and can easily become rulers of small countries with their ability to deliver the perfect kiss anywhere, anytime.

The tips in this guide will make your past experiences with kissing seem like amateur night, and already-great kissers will find more secret kissing weapons, tips, and tricks to fortify their arsenal of techniques. Here youll discover cant-fail techniques for ramping up your sensuality, the keys to perfect first kisses, the fine points of timing a kiss, oodles of techniques and surprises, and how to make an innocent kiss turn into a lustful session of tonsil hockey.

You dont need to be a man-eater or a villainous vixen to deliver the most wicked smooches—though all skill levels are encouraged to apply. Perhaps youre tired of being a one-date wonder or feel that youve missed far too many kissing opportunities. Or maybe youre a would-be kissing  virtuoso, coiled up and ready to spring. Maybe youd just like to know when and where different types of kisses are appropriate, how to be a better kisser, how to become a more magnetic kisser, or you want to learn new kissing techniques to make your sweetie give you—and your kissable lips—a double-take. This guide gives you concrete tools to nurture your kissing prowess, useful for a lifetime of being a first-rate, unforgettable kisser.

**Kissing Kung Fu: Be at One with the Elements** Kissing begins with a pair of lips and a tongue. Pretty basic stuff. But a delivering a _great_ kiss isnt just "tab A into slot B." What makes the perfect kiss has to do with so much more than a pair of squishy body parts getting mashed together. Desire, passion, tenderness, comfort, lust, yearning for connection, the urge to capitalize on a "perfect moment," and more, all drive us to kiss. Add to that the elements of atmosphere and timing, and youve got a whole slew of ingredients that can make whatever youve got cooking sweet or sour. Examine what elements make a kiss perfect—or pitiful.

❀ Timing is everything. In the movies, when the hero leans over to kiss the leading lady, the timing is always perfect—the sun is setting, both kissers feel amorous, birds are chirping, and all is good in the world. In real life, you may have the same experience, or your birds may actually be car alarms, passersby may be wishing you werent doing that in public, you might be unexpectedly queasy from cocktails or nerves, or a meteor could be on a collision course with Earth. Worse, a kiss when you dont want one isnt a kiss at all—its a drag. A great kiss happens right when it is supposed to, while an ill-timed kiss can ruin everything and practically peel the paint off the walls.

❀ You know this: its got to be the right pair of lips heading for your face, or all bets are off. Is the kisser your fantasy man, or is he a drooling fool from Planet Lame? If your date is Mr. Delicious, then your goodnight kiss has got to be a doozy. But if you dont click with the person planting one on you, then youve got a scary mouthful of

Mr. Yikes.

❀ Location, location, location. A wispy kiss on a mountaintop might be your idea of romantic perfection, or a sloppy session on the floor behind your roommates couch could be at the top of your list. But if you smooch in a  location that isnt right for one of you (say, in a public space that makes you or him feel exposed or otherwise uncomfortable), the kiss will bomb like an attempt to make _Titanic_ into a romantic comedy.

❀ Its got to feel good physically, too. Is the kiss a perfect union of lips and tongue, dancing in tandem to create an emotional connection? Does it make an electric spark that sends buzzy, yummy jolts of lust straight to your nethers? Or is it a smooshy mush of slippery lips and tongues that slither like slimy, wilted slugs? If a kiss feels good, youre on top of the world, but if a kiss feels yucky, too wet, or just plain wrong, its a dud.

❀ How a kiss makes you feel can make or break a mood, and its one of the more sublime elements to consider. The feelings behind a kiss are like a supporting actor who completes the character and identity of the leading lady. Is the kiss an emotional gesture that comes from the heart, or a raw animal thing that comes from the groin? And how do you gauge the feelings of the person kissing you? Does he feel the same way? There are ways to tell how your kissee is feeling, and when his signs and signals are green for "go" when your own engine is revved, then youre kissing in sync.

❀ Believe it or not, the motive for your kiss is communicated through your lips at the moment of contact, and it instantly sets the tone for any given smooch. Perhaps you are a devious femme out on a kissing conquest, taking what you want from the lips of hapless mortals. Lust, kiss, and conquer. Maybe youre a shy and lovely thing, ready to smooch, cuddle with a few sweet fairy kisses, and nuzzle with someone you adore. Or you might be both, depending on which way the kissing goes. A great kiss is made of many elements and can take you down different paths. Think about what you want out of it before you pucker up, buttercup.

❀ Technique is the foundation of your kissing style. And the technique you use depends on all of the factors and goals mentioned above—or you might just be out for fun, freestyling. Either way, your technique says it all, and youll enjoy kissing, and the reaction your kisses get, when you have an arsenal of styles in your naughty bag of kissing tricks.

# **Kiss Me Deadly, Darling: A Quiz**

Kissing might be the one thing you know makes em swoon with desire, or kisses might be just part of your playful bag of down-and-dirty flirty tricks. What kind of kisser are you?

_**When I kiss someone for the first time, I never:**_

a. make the first move.

b. move my body too close to his.

c. remove all of my clothes, just most of them.

d. set him free, no matter how much he begs.

_**The perfect movie kiss was:**_

a. Rhett Butler and Scarlett OHara in _Gone with the Wind_.

b. Kirsten Dunst and Tobey Maguire in _Spider-Man._

c. the vampiresses and any poor mortal man in _The Brides of Dracula_.

d. the elevator scene in _Fatal Attraction_.

_**I always make the first move kissing:**_

a. never!

b. when I know its absolutely safe to do so.

c. before the cocktails wear off.

d. when hes trapped like a wild animal.

_**When kissing on the first date, I never:**_

a. use tongue.

b. let it get too steamy.

c. let underwear get in the way.

d. . let my emotions get in the way of my evil plans to destroy my enemies.

_**Your philosophy about kissing is:**_

a. Kissing is fun but should be shared with someone special.

b. Good kissers are hard to find.

c. They are all my playthings and victims, every last one of them.

d. Never let them up for air.

_**I get ready for a kiss by:**_

a. keeping my lips and mouth in beautiful shape.

b. thinking about what kinds of kisses my kissee might really enjoy.

c. swishing with the last gulp of my beer, and off I go!

d. . surveying bedpost notches and emitting a fearful cackle while overwhelmed with evil satisfaction.

_**Kissing someone is how I tell:**_

a. what kind of lover he might be.

b. if we really click.

c. how much his girlfriend means to him.

d. . how long it will take to convert such a meddlesome hero to the Dark Side.

_**Your scariest nightmare about kissing contains:**_

a. someone who just wants to get in my panties.

b. waiting to kiss someone and then finding out theyre a terrible kisser.

c. a man who kisses like hes cleaning a fish tank with his tongue.

d. kittens, romantic sunsets, happy endings, not becoming absolute ruler of the universe, fluffy bunnies, all that is good and nice.

_**My surefire red-hot kissing technique is:**_

a. Keep my lips closed together and my hands to myself.

b. Follow his lead with tongue and touching, but take over when things get hot.

c. Try to swallow his entire face, lick everywhere from the neck up, insert entire tongue into his throat.

d. Unhinge jaw, swallow entire man.

# **If you answered mostly "A," you are Sweet Lips.**

Youre sweet as sugar, and your kisses are, too—and the person youre kissing knows that your cute little pucker and slightly naughty smile screams "sexy!" Your kissing power lies in your ability to seduce and tease longingly, making your make-out sessions dreamy and lasting, like an all-day lollipop. Attractive lips and a subtle style make your kisses unforgettable; learn a few dirtier tricks and the electric shocks from your tongue will bring them to their knees.

**Your kissing mantra is: "Melts in your mouth, not in your hands."**

# **If you answered mostly "B," you are Power Puss.**

Mack Daddy, meet Mack Mama. Your lips like to boogie, but before they hit the dance floor, they like to taste, road-test, and compare. You like to sample the goods before committing to a date, or to a make-out session, or even just to see what the local boys taste like—you like to test the water before you jump in. Youre a Power Kisser, through and through. Hone your skills, and theyll name a lipstick shade after you.

**Your kissing mantra is: "Victorias got nothing on my Secret."**

# **If you answered mostly ❝C,❞ you are Hot Lips.**

Your kisses are like a wildfire, and if you have your way, itll take a station full of firefighters to control the blaze. Youre a femme fatale kisser who never misses, and youre just as happy to give your dates a taste of your tongue and strut away leaving them swooning. Your kisses are the strong, silent type that come and go like a storm, and with a little polishing from the tips in these pages, your lips will be legendary—and lethal.

**Your kissing mantra is: "Hello—my name is Your Addiction."**

# **If you answered mostly "D," you are Pure Delicious Poison.**

Remember supervillainess Poison Ivy? Shes just a shrub compared to you. A kiss from you, blown on the wind, has been known to wilt flowers and make babies cry miles away. Your plan to conquer the universe one man at a time is unstoppable, and kisses are just the hors doeuvres of delicious conquest to you. Its hard to go wrong when youre already so bad, but keeping your kisser in picture-perfect shape and building an arsenal of smooching styles will keep your seductive powers at their most fearful.

**Your kissing mantra is: "Im so hungry I could eat—anyone I want."**


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Title: Make It Happen: Get That Kiss Anywhere, Anyplace, Anytime

Summary: This section of the book focuses on the importance of the first kiss and how to navigate the awkward moments that can come before it. The author discusses the benefits of waiting for the first kiss and how to use flirty signals to communicate interest. The section also includes tips on how to read physical clues to determine if someone is ready for a kiss and strategies for getting someone to make the first move.

Prompt: Write a detailed guide on how to initiate and navigate the first kiss. Include tips on how to deal with awkward moments, how to communicate interest without being too forward, and how to read physical clues to determine if someone is ready for a kiss. Discuss the benefits of waiting for the first kiss and how to make it unforgettable. Provide strategies for getting someone to make the first move, as well as tips for making the first move yourself if necessary. Include a list of do's and don'ts for the first kiss.

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**_Chapter 2_**

**MAKE IT HAPPEN: GET THAT KISS ANYWHERE, ANYPLACE, ANYTIME**

The awkward moment: Its happened to you. At the end of the evening, you walk to your car to say good-bye and—your stomach flips. Your heart flutters. Your brain explodes. He looks at you, and you feel an electric charge in the air. Then maybe, just maybe…You get in your car and drive away fast like a frightened little bunny. Lets hope _not_.

An attack of shyness happens to all kissers, from beginners to the suavest and most experienced lip-lockers. The awkward moment of the first kiss can turn even the coolest cucumber into the biggest spaz. Some people love the moment before the first kiss, the excitement, the terror—the moment youve both been waiting for when attraction leads to intimate contact. Others dread it and will squirm  every which way to avoid having to make a move. The anticipation is delicious, delightful, agonizing—thrilling. It means youre _alive_.

Sometimes the anticipation of your first kiss is the best part. Taking your time to build up the attraction and excitement makes your first kiss that much more unforgettable—and wonderfully, passionately explosive. When youre both so eager to kiss that you just cant stand it anymore, your attraction to each other becomes powerful, magnetic—and when the kiss finally happens, you see the stars. Do you have the self-restraint to wait until you just cant take it anymore?

Waiting for the first kiss can be like a tightrope walk. You must proceed very carefully so as not to rush things, on one hand, or send signals that youre not as interested as you really are, on the other. Its a little stressful, but its much easier when you know how to read your partners signs and how to send the right message to get what you want.

# **Waiting Is the Hardest Part**

You might not kiss on the first date for a number of reasons—and he might actually be the one who wants to wait. If he asks to wait a few dates for a first kiss, honor his request with grace and a smile, and relish the thought that anticipation is building up mutually. Dont worry about his reasons; theyre probably good ones, whatever they are. Dont second-guess, either. He might simply just be shy! Feed the fires by being casually flirty in subtle physical ways—a touch on the wrist, or standing or sitting a bit too close. And if youve both agreed to wait for that fiery first kiss, you can cuddle, hug, and breathe on each others lips, only inches away from each other.

Some of you might want to wait a bit for the first kiss to see if there is chemistry between you. Or, like any femme fatale worth the notches on her bedpost, you might want to make him wait simply to enjoy watching him squirm in erotic torment, willing to do anything for your first kiss. Clever smoochers might want to camouflage ill health, such as a flu or allergies, by asking to delay the first kiss for a few dates, until youre feeling better or know the potential kissee a bit better. Maybe you have already rushed to first base, or second or third, too fast for your own liking, and you want to take a bit more time to smell the roses.

Its perfectly fine to tell him you want to wait a bit before  your first kiss, or to wait until the third date. Reassure him that its not personal (he might feel insulted or insecure) and explain that you just dont want to rush a good thing. Tell him that youll make the first move when youre ready to enjoy it completely.

If you prefer not to announce your intentions, be sure to give him other signals that youre interested; otherwise hell think you dont want him at all. Yikes! Flirt with him, lightly touch his arm or hands now and then, brush against him a little when you walk down the sidewalk, make plenty of eye contact, smile a lot, and dont be afraid to stand or sit closer than a regular friend might.

If he moves in for a kiss and youre still not ready, place your hands flat on the front of his shoulders to gently, firmly stop him. Stay close, smile, and sweetly say, "Im not ready yet. But I will be soon. It means a lot that youre cool with that." You can softly kiss his cheek instead. Some guys might not understand why you want to wait for a kiss. They might protest, get upset, be pushy, demand reassurance, or argue. The rotten ones will insist. (This is okay if you know that you enjoy a little playful protest in your romantic relationships.) But the guys who are truly worth kissing will listen

and will want to understand your motives—and the really fun ones will want to draw out the anticipation and savor the first-kiss waiting game as much as you do.

# **Does He Really Want It?**

Yes, hot pants, they all want you. But only give em a little nibble at a time. When sizing up your toy for a potential smooch, make sure hes really ready for the close-up by looking for physical clues that reveal his readiness. Some guys will make it fairly obvious that its now or never by moving in for the kiss, but others will display unconscious physical signs to indicate readiness and kissability. And Im not talking about whats happening in his trousers. Its especially essential to know what to look for with shy guys who want to be respectful of your kissing boundaries. Are you sending the green light? Often, they want to kiss us oh-so-badly, but they have no idea that we actually want them to kiss us! Also, its tough to tell if someone wants to go beyond friendship or not, especially when your judgment is clouded by your own attraction to someone you realize is becoming more than just a friend.

Its up to you to figure out if he wants it or not. Does he call, text, IM, Tweet, or email you frequently? If youre out together on a date or just hanging out, remember that he could choose to be spending his in-person time with someone else. But hes with _you_. Put yourselves in a situation that would be an ideal time for a kiss, such as saying good-bye, and watch his body language closely for unconscious signs of attraction. Make sure you see two "kiss now" signals before you take the leap with your lips.

Just what are those signals? Prolonged and repeated eye contact is a sure sign of interest, and combined with close physical proximity is a sure signal of an impending kiss. If you catch him checking you out, bust him playfully with a smile that says "gotcha!" and flirt shamelessly, enjoying every moment. One careless glance from him isnt enough, but if there is a second look, stay tuned for more. When his second look lingers for a bit, consider this an engraved invitation: youve got him right where you want him. If the eye contact is fleeting and you cant tell if its intentional or not, wait to see if it happens more than once and look for another physical clue just to be sure.

Here are a few clues to look for:

❀ **Clue** : Look to the lips. When people are tense or uninterested, they keep their lips clamped together. But when  someone finds you hot and wants a smooch, their lips will part slightly in an inviting gesture. Like, smiling! Licking the lips (not in a gross or creepy way!) or touching the lips with a finger can indicate high kissing interest.

❀ **Clue** : Unconscious imitation is someones way of showing that theyll follow your lead, including up to the moment of a kiss. Watch and see if he mirrors your body language—legs crossed or uncrossed, the position of his hands and arms, shoulders squared to face you directly, and of course, mirrored facial expressions such as eye contact, smiling, and moving in close.

❀ **Clue:** Close physical proximity. Arms brushing when you walk, a slight touch on the arm or hand, orbiting your stance in crowded rooms, standing so your shoulders touch, being just a half step closer to you than he would to someone whos just a friend. Notice whether hes keeping an eye on where you are and where youre standing. Often, interested men will have conversations with others near you or (especially) right behind you. Another clue that precedes a kiss is for him to hold open a door for you in a way that intentionally has him leaning in close as you move past. This is a great opportunity for a smile—or a kiss.

# **How to Get Him to Kiss You**

Of course, theres nothing wrong with the direct approach. Some people love nothing more than to have their partner simply ask for a kiss. Have you ever hoped for a kiss, not gone for it or even asked for one, and then not been kissed? I can predict how well that technique is working for you. A girl or guy whos a little bit (or a lot) aggressive when it comes to the sweet pastime of kissing gets what they want, and many women and men love a partner who isnt afraid to take control.

_**Ask for that kiss:**_

"May I have a kiss, please?"
"Kiss me!"
"You can kiss me now."
"I think you deserve a kiss for that."
"Arent you forgetting something?"
"Can we kiss now?"
"Pucker up, buttercup."

Asking for it is only one option for getting him to put those sexy lips right where you want them: on you. You dont always have to ask with words; you can hypnotize him with a few super-sexy moves. Seriously. Even if youre the direct-approach kind of girl, words may not be appropriate for the scenario you find yourself in; you may have to be quiet for some reason, or asking for a smooch outright may simply not be your style. No problem. Whether youre shy or cunning, you have an arsenal of tricks to choose from.

# **How to Ask for a Kiss without Words**

First, open up your body language so he can sense that youre receptive for him to put the moves on you. Or that youre even interested: you can convey a lot of interest just by the way you carry yourself. Pull your shoulders back and take a slow, deep breath, and imagine your shoulders opening wider, with the center of your chest pulling upward. Straighten up your posture and arch (curve) your lower back a bit. Sitting or standing, you can do all this within the space of a few breaths and no on will notice—except, subliminally, him. Pull your head up and back just slightly, as well.

Eye contact is the golden key for getting that kiss without actually asking for it out loud. Your kissing mind-control efforts are centered on what you do with your eyes, and if  you stare at the ground (or anywhere but his eyes and lips), hell think youre not interested. To get his attention, you can softly touch his arm, shoulder, or the back of a hand.

Did you take the "Kiss Me Deadly, Darling" test in chapter 1? Choose your techniques from the options below. Each of them is an excellent prelude to making the first move if you get tired of waiting and just want to plant one on him to see if hes worth it!

_**For Sweet Lips sweeties:**_

Make eye contact, smile, and incline your head close to his. If youre shy or nervous you can look away at intervals, but be sure to always return your eyes to his and smile softly as you make contact again.

_**For Power Puss playas:**_

Let your eyes linger for a relaxed breath. Make eye contact, and then break it to look at his lips, and then back to his eyes. Smile. A sexy, closed-mouth smile with the corners of your mouth is an erotic invitation—use this sweetly tricky  smile to your advantage. Repeat as needed, and dont be afraid to maintain eye contact while blinking.

_**For Hot Lips and Poison Kiss divas:**_

Your lips are the most suggestive, sensual erogenous zone youve got—work it, girl, and get his attention focused right where it belongs. The instant you want that smooch, subliminally make him look at your lips to suggest kissing (and sex). Enjoy playing around with what touches your lips, how you touch them, and what slips between them. Bite your lower lip suggestively while smiling to tease and tempt. Rub your lips together softly and smile. Bite the end of your finger for a second—tilting your head down to do this is very flattering to your eyes and face. Touch your straw to your lips before you take a sip. Rub your lips lightly on the edge of a glass, as if you are doing it unconsciously. If youre not sure he is paying attention, direct his gaze to your lips with a pen, a finger, a straw, a snack, a lollipop, or a spoon. If youre feeling really bold, move your lips close to his without making contact while you talk, and linger for a breath or two to push it even further.

# **Making the First Move**

The first kiss is often a make-or-break deal, where both of you find out if all this excitement is really what its cracked up to be. If the object of your desire doesnt make the first move, getting up the courage to initiate the kiss is important, but equally crucial is how you kiss him the very first time. Your technique is everything here, because it communicates much more about you than words and gives him a direct indication of the passion thats got you all fired up.

Its debatable whether you should French-kiss (with your tongue) when you kiss someone the very first time. Certainly, at the moment of contact, your tongue should remain within your mouth—but how the kiss progresses past that point is a matter of assessing the direction and flow of the kiss. If you press lips and are overcome with passion and crazy desire, youll find your tongues dancing within moments, seemingly without any permission from your brain. When that happens, you just have to go with it. And if your first kiss turns out to be the kind where he passionately grabs you and you both uncontrollably start dancing the tongue tango, no one will blame you for not following any first-kiss "rules."

But unless youre crawling all over each other like love weasels on a hot summer night, keep that tongue in check until youve kissed three or four times, or until youve been open-mouth kissing for several minutes.

_**First Kiss Dos and Donts:**_

Do smile a lot, even while kissing.

Do keep eye contact.

Do make sure you have nice breath.

Do remember to come up for air.

Do start slow.

Do begin with small movements of the lips, head, body, and hands.

If you make the first move, do pull back after the first kiss to gauge his or her response.

Do keep your lips soft and the muscles relaxed—not hard or tight.

Do keep your tongue in your mouth (see above).

Do linger for a moment after the kiss. Especially for a smile.

Do pay attention to where your noses are going and avoid a collision.

Dont approach the kiss with your mouth open.

Dont worry if you collide! Laugh and move in again slow.

Dont jam your tongue in his mouth.

Dont slobber!

Dont make yummy noises—yet.

Dont make overly loud kissing or "smacking" noises.

Dont let your hands wander.

Dont start off with bites or suction.

Dont rush—savor this moment, even if youre nervous.

Dont worry about what you look like.

Dont attempt this kiss if youre not feeling well.

Dont finish the kiss abruptly, even if you dont like it.

Dont forget to breathe!