Input: This passage discusses the importance of the mouth in eroticism and provides techniques for practicing and improving oral sex skills. It also includes information on male genital massage and suggests games for lovers to explore each other's preferences. To generate this passage, a prompt could be: "Write a guide on the importance of the mouth in eroticism and provide techniques for practicing and improving oral sex skills. Include information on male genital massage and suggest games for lovers to explore each other's preferences."

Response:
CHAPTER 6

Before You Go Down

When it comes to erotic hot spots on the human body, nothing beats our most visual and versatile sex organ, the mouth. With this area controlled by hundreds of muscles, we can communicate intentions, ideas, and desires, and we can release streams of unrelenting dirty talk, if we choose. We can ask our lovers for what we need to get us off, or with moans and hot breaths can announce an imminent orgasm. Without a word, we can smile and flirt, we can warm up a room or a lover with peals of laughter, and most especially we can lick, bite, taste, smell, and literally inhale sex through our mouth. This sexy opening reminds everyone who looks at us that one sensual opening can lead to another, elsewhere on the body. Our lips suggest contours of genitalia, and a hint of wetness or the appearance of a tongue implies much more.

And as owners of these highly sensitive and tactile sensory organs, we do love to put things in our mouths. Orally fixated is a term youve no doubt heard in polite company in reference to smoking cigarettes, though inevitably everyone within earshot gets a little twinkle in their eyes mulling over the implications. It is true that as a culture were orally fixated, constantly on the move to the next thing going into our mouth, and its equally true that the right kind of oral stimulation can really turn us on. So maybe were just a bunch of orally obsessed hedonists—so what? Soak up all the pleasure your lips, tongue, and entire mouth can afford you—use it to its erotic maximum every chance you get, and see how your sex life expands. Kiss, lick, and suck your lovers fingers, toes, mouth, penis, or vulva, or put on an erotic show using toys in your mouth and savor every minute.

Recognize your mouth for the sex organ it is: treat it accordingly, and learn the many delightful things you can do with it to your lovers entire genital area. Take good care of it and make it appear even sexier with some extra attention the next time you brush your teeth. Use your toothbrush to gently exfoliate your lips, and brush your tongue to make it look smoother and sexily pink. A healthy-looking mouth sends signals to potential partners on subtle levels. Use a good lip balm, and smile a lot—smiling when flirting is like waving a red flag before a restless bull. Smiling when youre going down on him will drive him wild.

Going down on your lover involves more than just putting a penis in your mouth. Giving a memorable blow job includes kissing, nibbling, licking, sucking, and caressing his entire genital area throughout the whole encounter, especially at the beginning.

Practice, Practice, Practice

It stands to reason that if youre going to be putting your sweeties most sensitive organ in your mouth, you will want to do a little practicing and experimentation on your own first. The mouth is capable of delivering a wide variety of sensations, but you cant know how your own mouth feels unless you try out some techniques on yourself.

An organ of speech, digestion, and recreation, the tongue is a cleverly encased little package of muscle tissue, glands, fatty cells, and sensitive nerves. A mucous membrane, or mucosa, covers it, while the top surface, or dorsum, contains taste buds sensitive to touch and flavors, and serous glands that secrete some of the fluids in saliva. According to Paul Joannides in The Guide to Getting It On! we create and swallow saliva at the amazing rate of ten thousand gallons in a lifetime. Nerves leading from the tongue are stimulated by taste buds that react with chemicals in anything moist. The brain interprets these nervous impulses as sensations of feeling and taste. The total flavor of anything we put in our mouth comes from the combination of taste, smell, touch, texture or consistency, and temperature sensations. The tongue, with its thousands of nerve endings, talks of sweet chocolate pleasures, shouts pain when we bite it, and quietly whispers messages of erotic impulse to our big brain, all on its own.

Our lips and mouth are controlled by hundreds of muscles, always in motion, seemingly never at rest as we laugh, smile, frown, unconsciously clench our jaw, or suck on our tongue. This busy network of muscular filigree allows us to slacken our jaw, wiggle or undulate our tongue, or make the insides of the mouth into a means of suction that can draw a milkshake through a straw or give a penis pleasure. The strokes, licks, and combinations of suction that youll want to incorporate into your oral arsenal are best first tried on you—or rather, your fingers.

First, wash your hands. Then, using the sensitive hollow of your palm, see how your lips feel grazing, nuzzling, and kissing your hand. Dont worry about how you look; just concentrate on how it feels, because it is similar to how your lover will feel when you do the same to him. Press your flattened tongue against your palm, and vary the pressure. Give your hand a long, slow lick, and repeat with several licks in different combinations: flat tongue, pointy tongue, soft tongue, flickers, caresses, firm strokes, writing your name. These strokes and licks can be repeated on the shaft of his cock, his testicles, and his anus and perineum. Youll notice your tongue dry out, then magically rewet itself, and you may find yourself making a lot of spit. This is what will happen when you go down on him, and the extra saliva serves as a helpful and desirable lubricant during head.

Hold your index and middle finger together, and holding them stiffly, caress the opening of your lips with your fingertips, as if your fingertips were the tip of your lovers penis. Slip them in slowly, feeling the wetness and heat of your own mouth. Next, try holding your mouth open with your tongue flattened inside, and gently thrust your fingers along the top of your tongue. It feels amazingly smooth and warm, and this is what hes going to feel. Squeeze your lips shut around your fingers, and experiment with suction. Move your fingers in and out, and feel your tongue move around on them, testing the way the tip, middle, and edges of your tongue feel. Increase and decrease the suction. Contract your throat muscles, and see how that feels. Hum, and see how it vibrates your fingers. Men like to have their penises licked and sucked to varying degrees, so its good for you to know the difference between a little and a lot of suction. If you have a willing partner, you can find out how much he likes by having him suck your fingers the way he might want his penis sucked, and you can reproduce the suction to his satisfaction on his fingers to get it at the level he likes—and to make him really aroused in the process.

> > > The head of my cock was
> so sensitive that I gasped as
> her tongue ring and lip ring
> ran over it.

> > > Do you have a pierced tongue?
> If so, youll want to use your
> piercing to perform sensation
> experiments in the hollow of your
> hand. Moisten the most sensitive
> part of your palm, and see how it
> feels when you use your piercing
> to rub, massage, press, or tickle
> your hand. Familiarize yourself
> with pressure and sensation varia-
> tions to get an idea of what your
> partner might feel when you run
> the piercing over the head or
> along the underside of his cock.
> When with a new partner, experi-
> ment slowly and gently at first, and
> plot your actions by his responses.
> If he doesnt seem to like it,
> stop—but I encourage you to ask
> him what he thinks whenever pos-
> sible, because theres guessing...
> and then theres knowing.

Experimenting with the way your mouth feels is important, but equally important in learning to give great head is setting aside some time to practice on your own. Practice oral sex on your own? Why, of course! You can get two of your own fingers in your mouth with ease, but penises are a whole different size and shape, and you dont have control over their firmness. Practice wrapping your mouth around a dildo, a penis-shaped sex toy, or a vegetable such as a peeled carrot, cucumber, or zucchini—do not attempt to "deep throat" any of these items, however, as a vegetable or slender sex toy could get lodged in your throat. (A dildo with a wide base would be fine, of course, since the base would prevent the entire toy from slipping into your mouth.) When you shop for the lucky nonhuman subject for your experimentations, be sure to select something as close as possible to the size of the penis belonging to your intended human subject. Its fine to practice on bigger ones later, but if youre just starting out, youll want to begin with a comfortable size, or at least something close to the size of the penis youll be going down on.

When you find a "stunt cock" you feel comfortable with, practice on it the way you would on a penis. If youre going to be giving head to a strap-on dildo, getting a copy of the one your lover will be wearing will help you practice your technique. Either way, experimenting with the feel of a penis-shaped object in your mouth will help you get used to having something of that size and girth filling your oral cavity. And if gagging is a major concern of yours, you can see what your comfort threshold is, or play around by pushing it and learning to tame your gag reflex. Read more on the gag reflex in chapter 7, "Giving Head." The more orally adventurous might want to try masturbating while practicing giving head—for a number of reasons. Becoming aroused when you practice will eroticize the act of fellatio, which can facilitate the incorporation of a new erotic behavior into your routine, especially if you feel reluctant. Also, as we become aroused and more turned on, our gag reflex lessens, and that can be interesting to experiment with. And finally, if you plan on masturbating or having an orgasm while going down, you can play around with your levels of concentration, varying your focus between yourself and your (potential) partner. But honestly, good luck staying focused on the dildo in your mouth when you come—though it can be fun trying .

Relaxation and Arousal

> > > My boyfriend never liked getting head before, but now he does. He loves how I look at him when I do it, and he goes crazy when I act like I cant get enough of sucking his cock—which is true.

Whether youre about to give a hot and nasty, on-the-fly blow job or are going to slowly and sweetly make love to his cock, youll really heat things up if you get him into as heightened a state of arousal as you can. Simply taking his penis and stuffing it in your mouth is fine if you know your partner likes this, but in most cases this approach will make the fellatio session a forgettable one and will leave your partner disappointed—or it may make him feel like you just wanted to get it over with, which hurts. You may feel like youre erotically torturing him by prolonging his pleasure with some delicious foreplay, but the more thought, effort, and attention you put into arousing him, the more hell love how you give head.

Spend time kissing and nibbling all over his body, avoiding his genital area at first, tracing from head to toe with your mouth and your hands. Get him used to the way your hands, mouth, and body touch him, while you become accustomed to the way he feels and responds to you. Gently discover which parts he likes having licked, and which to leave out. He might really love it when you lick his neck but dislike it when you lick his thighs. Lick everywhere: hands, the hollow of his elbows, the nape of his neck. Caress his chest and kiss his nipples. Try licking them as you might lick the sensitive underside of his cock head.

Using Your Hands

> > > She did the one thing I enjoy the most when a woman gives me head. She grabbed the base with one hand, grabbed the middle with the other, and then sucked the head while stroking the rest of it with both hands...

Throughout the entire blow job, use your hands as much as you can to increase his arousal and comfort, and to prolong the sexual tension. Touching other parts of his body such as his chest, squeezing his nipples, grasping his hips, holding his buttocks, and stroking his thighs and stomach are highly recommended for building arousal—and may help a nervous lover relax. Many men enjoy the following techniques:

> > • Insert a finger in his mouth for him to suck and lick.

> > • Run your fingers through his pubic hair.

> > • Gently pull his pubic hair.

> > • Try lightly tugging on his testicles—some men like having them pulled or squeezed, though you should never tap or spank them (unless you have agreed to this type of sensation play beforehand).

> > • Push or pull up the mons (the fleshy mound over the pubic bone) to heighten erotic intensity; try rubbing it in a circular motion.

> > • When he is aroused, squeeze or pinch his nipples; as arousal increases, he may ask for stronger stimulation.

> > • Caress his buttocks, the cleft between his cheeks, or his anus. This is an oft-neglected part of his body, and he might really cherish your attention to the area.

Male Genital Massage

> > > Now, this is the part that drove me crazy: she would put her ring finger and thumb together to make a ring and lightly stroke from the top of the head down to the midway point while caressing my balls with the other hand. I almost went ballistic.

Giving his entire genital area a sensual massage, or even employing just a few erotic massage techniques, can heighten any oral encounter. Whether youre looking to add to a lengthy lovemaking session or want to knead and rub him into a frenzy before you go down on him, male genital massage will help you meet your desired goal. Genital massage, like a regular massage, is a very sensual form of contact and is very relaxing for the recipient. You can use erotic massage techniques during a full-body massage, to give him an appetizer before the main course of oral sex, or simply employ the strokes and combinations to give him a mind-blowing hand job.

You can give a dry massage, but using a lubricant is highly recommended. Oils are fine to use if youre just giving him a hand job, but they arent recommended if youre going to be putting him in your mouth or vagina, or are going to be using latex barriers such as condoms later. Oil will coat your mouth and will take a long time to clear, it wreaks havoc on the delicate pH in the vagina (and is difficult to flush out), and nothing breaks a condom like a little oil. If you do use oil, stay away from heavily scented products that might irritate his urethral opening or cause an allergic reaction: use sweet almond or olive. Water-based lubricants sold specifically for sex are best to use, especially if you want to keep your options open. If you know youre going to transition from a genital massage to a blow job, select a lubricant that tastes okay—but know that you wont find one that tastes great. For information on flavored lubricants, see chapter 4, "Know the Hard Facts: Health Considerations."

When you take a moment to marvel at what can be done with a pair of hands, its easy to see what sensual tools they are. They can render touches that send shivers up spines, and with literally thousands of nerve endings, they feel, and transmit pleasure to us, their owners. Dont be surprised if giving your male partner an erotic massage turns you on.

Make sure your hands are warm and the skin feels soft. Before you begin, take time out to make sure your fingernails are trimmed and smooth and you dont have any rough spots. Remove rings and bracelets, or anything else that might get in the way or snag.

You can massage his cock in any number of places or positions, such as seated on the couch or standing in the shower, but youll have an easier time and better access if hes lying down. Whether hes lying on a massage table draped with towels or doing dishes at the sink, start with light touches and strokes all over his torso and abdomen, upper thighs, and hips. Cup your hand over his genitals and hold it still for a moment. Press lightly, and begin to knead your hand in a barely discernable squeezing motion. Press his cock against him with the flat of your hand, and push it from side to side. You can gently cup his balls, and you can also rub his mons with flattened fingers, where his penis meets his body (you might want to review chapter 2, "The Anatomy of a Mans Pleasure"). Next, warm the lubricant between your hands (remember, there is no such thing as too much lubricant) and move on to these massage techniques:

> > • Press the palm of your hand on the shaft his penis and slowly squeeze repeatedly, staying in one place on the shaft. Try this at the base, in the middle, at the top.

> > • Try stroking with fingertips only. Stroke, pull, knead, or tap them lightly up and down along the entire shaft.

> > • Grasp his cock and pull it downward, and use your other hand to press on his mons. You can hold his cock in place and rub the mons in a circular motion.

> > • Circle your hand around the base, and pull it to the end in one long, continuous stroke.

> > • Reverse the stroke, starting at the head and going from tip to base.

> > • Try the long stroke from the base, and add a gentle twist when you reach the head. This might be too intense for some men (the head is sensitive to stimulation), but others will love it. Experiment to see if he likes the twist at the head only, or along the shaft.

> > • Using one hand, begin one long stroke from the base, and when you reach the head, use your other hand to follow behind the first in another stroke.

> > • With fingers circled around the shaft, knead and pull.

> > • Add your other hand to cup, fondle, or gently tug on his testicles.

> > • You can apply strokes with his penis pointed up, down, or in the direction of either of his hips. Many men enjoy having their penis pulled downward and back, toward their butt, but some guys will find this uncomfortable. When in doubt, ask.

> > • Using two hands, clasp your fingers and wrap your hands around his cock. Stroke up, down, or up and down. You can twist your hands right and left.

> > • With clasped hands, hold his cock still and massage in little circles with your thumbs all over the shaft and head.

> > • Use the index fingers and thumbs of both hands to make firm rings around him. Stroke, pull, twist.

> > • Cup your hand over just the head, with your fingers extended down the shaft; twist back and forth as if to juice a lemon.

> > • Use two hands together, pressed flat against one another with his penis in between. Gently rub your hands together, or squeeze them together for up and down strokes.

> > • Experiment with cupping and tugging on his balls as you use one-handed strokes.

> > • Try strokes that begin at his balls and continue past the head of his penis.

> > • Good, old-fashioned up-and-down with one hand (or two) is always a winner. Vary the pressure and rhythm.

> > • Hold his penis at the base in one hand, and put the shaft between your index and middle fingers, giving a slight pinch as you stroke.

> > • Place one hand at the base and one at the top. Twist in opposite directions.

> > • On his perineum, gently stroke, knead, or rub in circles.

> > • Some men will love the addition of anal stimulation to a massage. You can massage just at the outside of his anal opening, or add penetration. See chapter 10, "More Techniques," for details on anal play.

> > • Alternate any of these techniques with the open-hand massage you started with.

> > • If you choose to do a dry massage, you can add a twist by placing a soft fabric (like silk) between your hands and his cock. Dry massage is fun on uncircumcised men, because you can add pulling or rolling around of the foreskin. Be careful not to jerk too hard on the foreskin at the head of his cock when you use firm, pulling strokes.

Gauging His Response

When youre massaging, nibbling or licking your guy, its easy to oversimplify his response to the pleasure youre giving: erect cock equals good, soft cock equals bad. But thats only part of the story, if its a part at all—not all men respond to intense pleasure and satisfaction with a hard-on. Guys who get erect and stay erect throughout the duration of a blow job or an erotic massage are still experiencing a range of reactions to different ways theyre being touched. Men whose penises fluctuate from hard to soft, or are mostly soft for the duration, will be feeling similarly, enjoying certain things you are doing more than others. But how do you know what hes responding to, and what it means? Asking him whats going on is ideal, though not always practical, or even possible.

> > > She had her eyes on me the whole time. She went all the way to my balls, then came back slowly…

There will be times when all you have to go by is his body language, perhaps accompanied by moans, groans, sharp intakes of breath, and possibly some cute yummy noises. Learning to take cues from his body language is essential, especially when things begin to heat up. As he becomes more aroused, youll notice tension in his jaw or neck muscles, or he might tense the muscles in his thighs, curl his toes, or clench his fists. Ideally, hell let you know if he wants more of anything by telling you, but he may just move his pelvis: closer, away from you, right or left. He might reposition your hands or mouth. Some men might pull your head down with their hands, grinding upward into your face, grabbing your ears or hair—this might be hot for you or really not okay at all. If you dont like having your head guided or touched, let him know before you get started that this activity is off the menu. But if it happens and you dont like it, simply move his hands firmly to your shoulders or onto his own hips.

On one end of the response scale, some men are loud, vociferous, openly appreciative lovers who let you know how they feel about every stroke, while others are quiet and withdrawn as they savor the pleasure. Chances are hes somewhere in the middle of the scale, but sometimes its hard to tell if he really likes the way youre twisting your hand around the head, or if the pace of your strokes is fast or slow enough. When in doubt, try to have him show you what he likes; take his hand and gently place it where youre unsure.

When incredible, roller-coaster-ride, death-defying sex occurs between two people, its because each know what the other wants. In sex, communication is crucial, and though it seems like a simple act, fellatio is no exception. Since every man is unique anatomically, all men respond to pleasurable touch differently. One man may like having his penis grabbed roughly, while another may only like it touched gently until hes on the brink of orgasm. One man might like the intense suction that a mouth can provide, while another will love the way your mouth feels wrapped lightly around him, moving slowly. Also, different parts of his penis will like to be touched more than others—many men report having a "sweet spot," though this spot can be in different places on different guys. Some men wont have a favorite spot, or it might be in different places depending on the type of erotic play youre sharing, his mood, or even the environment youre in. Ask him what he likes, and chances are hell tell you.

Learn the anatomy of his penis and what places are sensitive to stimulation. Generally, the head, the underside of the head, and the ridge running along the underside of the penis are the more sensitive areas, but you should find out if he has a preference for where he likes to be touched—and when he likes to be touched there. For instance, the opening to his urethra (the piss slit) may be too sensitive to touch when you begin fellating him, but as he gets close to orgasm, flicking it with your tongue could drive him wild. Some men may love having their balls gently tugged during fellatio, but only at the beginning, middle, or end of the session. To really find out what he likes, youre going to need to ask specific questions. If you ask him if it feels good, hell most likely say "yes" no matter what youre doing, and thats not enough information to go on. Here are some suggestions for questions:

> > • Do you like it (gripped, squeezed, tugged, stroked, licked) like this?

> > • Do you like being touched here? Ask this as you touch a spot with your tongue. Then touch another, and ask if he likes it more than the first. Then another…Stop and linger where he really likes it, and note that spot for later.

> > • Do you want it stroked harder? Softer?

> > • Do you want me to go faster? Slow down?

> > • Do you want it sucked harder? Softer?

> > • What else would you like me to do while I do this?

Foreplay Games for Lovers

A playful—and often very arousing—game that works on any body part is the One to Ten game. This delightful game is actually a sneaky strategy to determine his desired levels of stimulation, and it can be used throughout your lovemaking session. Because your lovers excitement levels change throughout the sexual response cycle, this game can be a helpful tool with a noncommunicative partner when youre trying to figure out what he likes. Heres how to play:

Tell him that you want to hear a number between one and ten when you touch him. The number one means he wants the lightest possible touch, and a higher number turns up the volume, ten being the top of the scale. When you begin touching or licking, youll probably be at one, and as his arousal increases, so will the volume—and his arousal may go up and down, so pay attention. Try this out on any appealing erogenous zone: neck, nipples, the tip of his penis, testicles, perineum, or anus.

Of course, you can turn the tables with this game to conduct additional "research." Have him lick, kiss, nibble, and suck on various parts of your body, telling you what one is to him, and you can find out what a ten really means to him. This may require hours of research and a number of experiments to determine the precise levels of application.

Lovers in the beginning stages of foreplay can play a fun game thats basically an adult version of the childrens game Red Light, Green Light. This game helps you determine where his erogenous zones are and can be used with any type of touch: fingers, lips (kisses), tongue (licks), face (nuzzling), or if youre daring, a sex toy or penis. To play this game, tell him that youre going to touch him in different places all over his body (and be sure to tell him with what) and that you want him to tell you one of three colors in response; red, green, or yellow. Red means "No, dont touch there"; yellow is neutral (but doesnt mean "Stop"); and green is "Yes! Right there!" Take note of what he likes and when, and youll gradually become an unforgettably attentive, and incredibly desirable, lover.

You might want to try playing a little game called Sweet Surprise that pushes the boundaries of playfulness, trust, and power. First, assemble a variety of items that produce various physical sensations: pieces of silk, velvet, fur, rubber, or leather; ice and a cup of hot tea; a feather (or feathers); a vibrator; and if you already play with sensation a little, a small whip, a slapper, or some clips. Finally, a blindfold, and you.

Tell him that he is going to be the blindfolded subject of a sensation experiment. You can choose to allow him to see the assembled items beforehand, or not. You also have the option of restraining his wrists and ankles, if he agrees that this will enhance the game. Then, once he is blindfolded and his clothes are removed, begin touching him with different things, going slowly, using one item at a time. Ask him to identify the sensations as you go along—having him describe them to you will give you clues about how hes responding. Alternate between touching him with a piece of fake fur or velvet, and your mouth. Work your way all over his body, saving his penis and testicles for last. Gradually increase the number of kisses and strokes you give him as you incorporate his cock into the mix. Use the ice and hot tea to warm and cool your mouth alternately, if you wish. Tell him to keep describing the way your mouth feels when you are going down on him. For more about blindfolds and how to use them, see chapter 10, "More Techniques."

Dont Stop

by Alison Tyler

Shes got the strap-on in place, and she comes toward the bed in a blur. I see pale skin. Sleek leather harness. Hard, pink cock. Then my vision vanishes as the black velvet blindfold covers my eyes and she easily fastens the Velcro at the back of my head. Ariels always quick at these moments, her fingers moving with speed and finesse. Theres never a false motion, never a wasted gesture.

"Suck it, Davey," she says now, but the words arent necessary. My lips are already parted, meeting her toy and bathing the length with the heat and wetness of my mouth. I run my tongue over the ridges, meant to represent veins, the rippling bulges, the bulbous head. The taste is oddly erotic, yet totally unreal, as Im sucking plastic instead of skin. But the erotic movements, those powerful thrusts that seal her body to me, are all her. Sex in motion. At some point, the cock will become her, as well, and Ill lose my recognition of where Ariel stops and the tool begins.

"Harder," she says, but Im already there, fiercely working my mouth along the length, drawing her in deep. I know how to do this, although Ive never gone down on another man, never even come close. Instinctively, I just know how to suck cock. Probably because I like to have mine sucked.

I try hard to swallow her toy down to the root, and she groans the way I would in a switched position, and then murmurs encouraging nonsense phrases to me. Words that have no meaning at all, but keep me going in the same direction. Her hands stroke through my short black hair. Her fingertips cradle my face, skim my evening shadow, trace over the bones beneath the skin. She is rough and gentle at the same time, and I need it just like that.

"Dont stop—"

Fuck, is it good. As I lie on my back on the bed, my lithe baby positioned on my chest, the smell of her cunt reaches me easily. I know shes getting wetter under that harness, can actually feel the liquid of her arousal spreading down the split of her thighs to my upper body. Rich and sweet, the scent makes me yearn to taste her, but it makes me sad as well because it means that soon—too soon—we will have to move onto something else. Another phase of the evenings entertainment.

When Ariel reaches a certain simmering point, she is simply unable to wait. The tool will come off and her pretty pussy will be pressed to my face so that I can fully please her. Or shell move so that we can 69, releasing my wrists from the cold metal cuffs so that I can touch her naked cunt, stroke her ripe ass, slide my fingers into her holes. Or shell make me roll over and the cock will find its slippery wet way between my ass cheeks. Wet from my own mouth, that tool will thrust hard. Thrust home.

But right now, Im allowed to swim in the pure pleasure of suckling. And I relish it. Closing my eyes, I do all the magic tricks I know to make her feel the way I feel when she goes down on me. Because, oh, does Ariel know some tricks. Right there in the forefront of my mind is the image of her between my legs, her hungry mouth busy. So busy.

Ariel is a master of blow jobs. She makes it seem as if she actually breathes my skin, no longer needing air. There are no hesitations when she sucks cock. Just long, smooth strokes of her mouth on my rod, her tongue milking me, adding pressure, creating soft, soothing sensations. I mimic each of these motions, trying my best to emulate her power, her posture. Trying my best to become her. As in this little game that we play she has become me.

I give it every thing Ive got. My tongue flicks along the length, making swirls, drawing lines. Then I just suck on it, feeling my cheeks indent as I work hard to please a plastic cock. And when she says the words I love to hear, I obey them without a thought.

"Dont stop, Davey. Dont stop. Dont stop."


Input: This passage discusses the art of giving mind-blowing head in three main components: oral foreplay, specific techniques, and combining rhythm with mouth and hands to bring him to an orgasmic peak. It also provides tips on how to overcome the gag reflex and discusses the importance of communication during oral sex. To generate this passage, a prompt could be: "Write a guide on giving mind-blowing head, focusing on the three main components of oral foreplay, specific techniques, and combining rhythm with mouth and hands to bring him to an orgasmic peak. Include tips on how to overcome the gag reflex and emphasize the importance of communication during oral sex."

Response:
CHAPTER 7

Giving Head

Fellatio is a composition performed in three easy pieces. You conjure and build arousal with playful and purposeful oral foreplay, then you increase pleasure and establish a rhythm with specific techniques, and in the final crescendo, your rhythm combines with your mouth and hands to bring him to an orgasmic peak. These are the three main components in the art of giving mind-blowing head. Once you learn the steps and techniques, you will develop your own personal style. Pay close attention to the way the action is layered, and youll most certainly get explosive results that will have you both grinning from ear to ear.

Your First Tastes

> > > She lay her head on my stomach and licked, nibbled, and sucked me for what seemed hours.

Taking the time to savor his smell and taste and feel everything to the fullest in the initial stages of fellatio is similar to enjoying an appetizer before the main course. Rushing to paradise can be fun sometimes, but going slowly prolongs his pleasure and makes for a much more memorable experience. Wanting to dive right in, or rather, plunge it in, is a delicious urge. When the passion and desire is at the point that you cant get into each others clothes fast enough, then the eye-popping sensation of his cock going straight into your hot little mouth is fitting. Although, when hes that hot and bothered, why not make him want it even more by slowing down the action?

If youre putting him in your mouth for the first time, or are nervous about the whole process, then let time be on your side as you get acquainted with the look, aroma, and flavor of his genitals. As you transition from foreplay to fellatio, gradually narrow your attentions to his groin area, and spend extra time touching and kissing the area around the pubic region. If youve been giving him an erotic massage, then youre already familiar with the sensory information that comes with being near him. As you kiss and nibble closer to his cock and balls, take a moment for you both to adjust to the feeling of having your face near his genitals. If hes wearing underwear, you can kiss or even mouth his cock and balls through the fabric—this feels amazing to the recipient. Should you want to take his underwear off, slowly slide down one side at a time as you kiss and nuzzle his hips and the curve of his lower abdomen and hips.

When you begin to incorporate his penis and testicles into your attentions, start out with light kisses that are all soft lips and no tongue. Combine your kisses with other types of touch elsewhere, such as caresses and light squeezes with your hands; you can also press your face against his genitals to fully incorporate the action. Some men will be delighted if you run their penis over your face and neck, especially if its done with a sweetly salacious smile. The extra contact when youre going down on him makes a big difference between "any old blow job" and getting head from someone who really wants him to feel good. Add long, languorous licks where his inner thighs meet his torso. Light, hot, focused breath on different parts of him provides a nice teasing touch.

If youre feeling unsure about taking the first taste, run your closed lips over the shaft of his penis and the head. Inhale, moisten your lips, and try giving the skin an open-mouthed kiss, sans tongue. Taste your lips. He might be one of those juicy guys who produces a liquid called pre-come when aroused, and you may want to sample that flavor before you put him in your mouth. This is an activity for "fluid bonded" couples; read more about it in chapter 4, "Know the Hard Facts: Health Considerations." Pre-come tastes slightly different from ejaculate; the flavor is generally light, but it differs from man to man. With a thoughtfully placed stroke, you can pick up a little pre-come on your fingertips and discreetly sample the way it tastes. If you dont like it, you can use the opportunity of not yet having started fellatio to transition to another activity you feel more comfortable with.

Now you can invite your tongue to the party, if you havent already. While giving his crotch every other type of attention, you can gradually incorporate little licks or tongue flickers to his penis head, shaft, and base, his testicles, and where his scrotum meets his body, and you can lift his balls and lick his perineum. Use your hand to guide his penis into positions that make it easy for you to reach every spot, especially the sweet spots he responds to positively. He might really like being licked along the underside of the shaft, though he may prefer a spot at the base, up the center, at his circumcision scar (if hes circumcised), or on the underside of the head. He may also like it all around the lower ridge of the head, where it mushrooms off the shaft, or at a particular point along that ridge. Some men really enjoy having their urethral opening (where urine leaves the penis, also called a "piss slit") tongued and licked, though not all guys like this; youll have to pay attention to his reaction.

> > > Stay hydrated! Its no fun to go down on someone when you have a dry mouth, and giving head can be thirsty work. If youve been drinking alcohol, youre going to get dehydrated faster than nondrinkers, but either way its a good idea to keep a glass of water nearby (if you can) to keep your kisser moist.

This is a terrific time to experiment and play with different tongue techniques. Again, it is highly recommended that you use your hands to guide his penis, adding the extra pleasure of fondling or lightly squeezing his balls. With your tongue, you can do the following:

> > • Flicker sensitive spots, such as those mentioned above. Flicker side to side or up and down, or give light taps.

> > • Press your tongue flat on the head.

> > • Point your tongue and give pressing strokes anywhere.

> > • Soften your tongue and slide sloppy trails everywhere.

> > • Give long, slow licks, as you would to an ice cream cone.

> > • Speed up the long licks, then slow them again.

> > • Hold your tongue stationary and run the head of his cock over it.

> > • Lightly lick his balls, or slather them with saliva.

> > • Gently suck one or both of his balls into your mouth. The popular term for this is tea bagging.

> > • Incorporate your soft lips (no teeth), and run your lips and tongue up and down the shaft, or over the head. Add a little suction if you like.

> > • If hes uncircumcised, pull the foreskin back with your fingertips to kiss and lick him. You can also leave the foreskin in place and sweep your tongue around inside—but go easier than you would with a circumcised man, because uncut penises are usually more sensitive to stimulation on the head.

Watch his reactions to your focused licking and flicking. If he seems to be pulling away, then that spot might be too sensitive to what youre doing: back off and move on to another area, or change your tongue technique to something less intense. But if hes getting really hard, if his hips are beginning to thrust, youve got him right where you want him.

The Pierced Penis

A penis piercing can change the way you use your mouth and hands, and youll want to take into account the possible differences in sensation for him. First, keep in mind that piercings are susceptible to infection throughout the healing period, so youll want to avoid oral sex until hes done healing (two weeks is a safe waiting period), especially if you practice safer sex—your saliva can inhibit his healing, and youll be sharing bodily fluids, because genital piercings can bleed during the first twenty-four to forty-eight hours; beyond that, piercings can bleed for about a week during erections. Once the site is healed, a piercing is perfectly clean, just the same as a pierced ear. A piercing will make his penis more sensitive to stimulation, especially the specific area thats pierced.

There are several different styles of piercings and jewelry that can adorn them, including steel or gold hoops or barbells. A Prince Albert piercing passes through the eye (urethral opening) and either downward through the heads underside (most common), or upward through the heads top (a "reverse"). Ampallangs pass horizontally through the glans and not through the urethra; several can be worn at a time. The Apadravya passes through the heads ridge and can also be worn in sets. Experiment to see what types of sensation he likes on his piercings, if he likes any specific attention on them at all. Some men might like them flicked lightly with your tongue, gently tugged by lip suction—but some wont want attention focused on the piercing at all, preferring to let the piercing add to the typical range of sensations in a blow job. Should a piercing come out in a heated moment, dont panic—this can happen, and it doesnt hurt. Just let him know it came out and ask him what he wants to do.

Illustration 7. Genital Piercings

Using Your Mouth and Hands

> > > When she was done teasing me, she leaned down, raised my cock slightly with the hand that had been teasing my balls, and took what felt like my whole cock in her mouth. No licking, no teasing, just one long slide into her hot, wet mouth. It was an incredibly erotic experience, partly because I was so horny, partly because of the contrast between her mouth and the cold air, and partly because it was so smooth and simple.

When youre ready to put him in your mouth—and hes really ready to be in your mouth—you have a few choices about how you want to switch your oral ministrations into higher gear. Either way, when his penis first makes contact with the heat and wetness thats inside your mouth, hes going to feel like hes gone straight to heaven. Dont be surprised if you get an appreciative gasp or moan.

Before you wrap your lips around his delicate member, know that the one major rule about blow jobs is to keep your teeth off the playing field at all times. Its pretty easy to avoid having him hit your molars, but your front teeth (or any rough dental work) can turn an oral outing into a trip hell never want to take with you again. Even lightly and imperceptibly, teeth can scrape the thin and sensitive skin of the penis. Cover your front teeth by wrapping your lips over them. You can minimize any discomfort you may feel on the inside of your mouth by keeping your lips slightly tensed or pursed. Its also good for comfort (and to vary the stimulation hes getting) to keep your lips on the move. Vary the way you pucker, purse, and wrap your lips as you move him in and out of your mouth and alternate your sucking and kissing. A few men will like the sensation of light nibbling with your teeth or feeling them run feathery-light on their cock—but this is an activity that should be talked about before you try it. Many men will get nervous in all the wrong ways if you rub them with your teeth and they dont want it.

Needless to say, when you begin to put his penis in your mouth, you arent going to begin ramming up and down, as fast as you can—take it slowly. Put him in, then back out, and repeat the process as an intermediate stage of oral foreplay. How you play around with this initial in and out is up to you. When his penis starts making the first dips into your mouth, try choosing among these suggestions:

> > • You can gradually work in the sensation of going into your mouth, alternating sliding the head just between your lips, and other licks and kisses youre already doing.

> > • You can stick your flattened tongue out, hold it perfectly still, and slide him slowly in, then wrap your lips around and apply a little suction.

> > • Run the tip of the head around your moistened lips (as if it were lipstick), pausing to push him in, around, back in, repeat…

> > • You can, of course, shove him in suddenly. This works well if you hold still for a few moments after shoving to let the sensation sink in.

> > • Begin pulling him in with your lips, moving forward and back, but go farther down with each forward motion.

> > • Try wrapping your hands around his hips or buttocks, with the tip of his cock held in place with your lips. Pull him in and out with these "handles."

If I gag, I just jack him off for a minute.

At this stage, youll be liberally using your hands not only to maintain sensual contact with your partner but also to keep the stimulation going on his penis as your mouth leaves and returns. One or both hands will hold him steady as you put him in and out of your mouth. You can also rely on your hands to stroke him and duplicate your mouths movements if your jaw needs a rest. Use your hands to guide his penis, and always keep both hands on him somewhere; hips, butt, stomach, thighs, balls, chest. You can lightly run your fingernails over non-ticklish areas such as his thighs or chest, tease his pubic hair, and stroke or massage the line from belly button to pubic bone. You can also reach up and caress his neck, face, and lips, and some guys love it when you slip a finger or two in their mouth to lick and suck.

> > > The way to deal with big dicks is to use your hand as an extension to your mouth. Lots of saliva. Then keep stroking him and lick his balls. And below his balls. Back up for more sucking, then back down for more ball licking. Perhaps tickle his asshole if he likes that.

> > > The Eyes Have It

> > > One time I asked her to look
> at me, and she did so while
> continuing to give me head.
> I told her how good it felt,
> what an incredible turn-on it
> was to watch her suck my cock,
> and how it was even more of
> a turn-on to look into her
> eyes while she did so.

> > >
>

> > > Were visual creatures by nature.
> Blow jobs can take this principle to
> delirious heights. Since the person
> receiving head can watch the action,
> why not crank up the volume by
> putting on a show? Eye contact is
> where its at when you want to
> heighten the sexual tension.You can
> stare intensely into his eyes as you go
> at it, or punctuate your activities by
> stealing coy glances now and then.

Touching his testicles enhances what youre doing to his penis, and to the rest of him. The balls are often neglected in oral sex, even though theyre a major pleasure zone. A few men will dislike having them touched at all, but most will appreciate having them included in the fun. Touch them lightly at first; if the response is positive, you can cup and hold them, give light squeezes or tugs, caress them with your fingertips, lift them slightly and hold them still, or reach behind them and massage or stroke his perineum. Prolong these initial stages of having him in your mouth for as long as you want, and remember that the longer you make it last, the more turned on hell get.

> > > Whenever I feel horny and want to get off, all I have to do is close my eyes and think back to that day. I can still feel her mouth around my cock and the way she never neglected my balls. It was amazing.

Strokes and Combinations

> > > Her head was bobbing up and down, one of her hands was in my mouth, and the other one was massaging my balls! I mean, I was in ecstasy!

Some people spend years using a single blow job technique on their lovers—and theres nothing wrong with that, as long as everyones ecstatically happy with the results. But not every sexual encounter is the same in tone or duration, and not all men respond overwhelmingly to cookie-cutter oral sex formulas. Its a good idea to mix it up, and make the blow job match the man and the mood. There are many different strokes and ways to combine them with one another and with the techniques youve already learned. Using more than one, and going slowly through a catalog of moves, lends length and body to your session, while giving your lover an outstanding oral sex experience.

The crux of your oral technique is the way you use your hand (or hands) in accompaniment with your mouth. The key to doing this is to use a hand in tandem with your mouth on his shaft, as an extension of your mouth. Wrap one hand around his cock, with your index finger and thumb meeting at the top, and keep these fingers against your lips. Moving up and down with your hand locked to your lips, you make an intensely pleasurable, tight tube for him to slide in and out of. Most men like a firm grip, but not too firm; test your grip on two of your fingers to see how it feels before you get started. If youre not sure, you can always have him put his hand on yours and show you.

> > > He would take the tip of his tongue, run it along the length of it for a while, very sensually, always varying the pace but never feeling out of rhythm. He also did the one thing I enjoy the most when a man gives me head. He grabbed the base with one hand, grabbed the middle with the other, and then sucked the head while stroking the rest of it with both hands…

Using your hands along with your mouth is an important technique, and it has several beneficial side effects. Besides making your mouth into a pleasurable space that he can slide entirely into, your hands can also enhance his pleasure by moving in different ways or adjusting constriction at any point in your up-and-down motions. And it can provide a way for you to minimize how deep he goes into your mouth, so if youre concerned about gagging or hip thrusts, you can use your hand as a buffer. If your jaw, neck, or anything else gets sore or tired, you can rest your mouth and keep the stroking and rhythm continuous, not breaking contact. In fact, you can give yourself a stealthy rest by moving back and stroking him while looking at him seductively, and hell be none the wiser. Your hand-and-mouth motion comes into play when you "deep throat" him; read about how to do this in chapter 9, "Deep Throat."

Survey your choices when it comes to strokes and the combinations you can create with other sensations. Pick some and try them in combination to see what he likes; youll notice that a particular way you are going down on him will turn him on more. Then begin to focus your energy on the type of stroke he responds to pleasurably, and establish a rhythm. Always keep your upper lip curled protectively over your teeth—a nip at the wrong moment is unsettling. When he starts to respond to a particular technique, youll begin your rhythm. Establishing a rhythm is your goal, but be sure to stay with each technique you use long enough for him to get used to it. Dont rush through changing techniques, or change what you do with each stroke—this is frustrating for the recipient, who is trying to focus on arousal and orgasm. The following strokes are your road to rhythm:

> > • To do the master stroke, the basis for fellatio, keep your hand against your lips, and bob up and down.

> > • Try long strokes, short, slow strokes, or a rapid in-and-out motion.

> > • Adjust the pressure in your hand by making it snug for entire strokes, or constrict your grip when you go down to the base of the shaft, or at the head.

> > • Vary your suction. Increase it for a few strokes, then release. Try using more suction on either up or down strokes.

> > • Play around with the different ways you can create suction. Try pulling with your lips, by creating a vacuum with your tongue, or pulling by constricting your throat. Each way will feel different to him.

> > • Try using no suction at all, with either a tight or a loose hand.

> > • Hold your mouth still and pump with your hand.

> > • Pull the foreskin down tightly while only your mouth goes up and down.

> > • Twist your head as you go up and down. Try it for the length of a whole stroke, or only when you reach the tip. Twist on up or down strokes, or both.

> > • Twist only your hand, with the same variations.

> > > > > It stands to reason that once
> hes very aroused and close to
> orgasm, he probably wont
> know exactly what youre
> doing; hell just know if it feels
> good or not. Its up to you to
> remember what worked and
> what didnt.

> > • Hold still for a moment and squeeze only your mouth and throat in rhythm.

> > • Experiment with keeping your tongue in constant motion.

> > • Allow him to make the motion by thrusting his penis in your mouth while you hold still—this is called irrumation.

On Gagging

Touch the back of your tongue with a toothbrush, and youll feel that dreadfully familiar involuntary reflex shared by all—youll gag. The entire back of the mouth and soft palate are wired with nerves that are auto-programmed to trigger muscular convulsions in your throat when touched, constricting the opening of the throat and sending signals to your stomach to begin a queasy lurch. This is how the body protects itself from choking on oversized objects. We are not serpentine; we cannot unhinge our jaws. Put something bigger than your mouth into your mouth, and you will gag.

Everyone gags at some point during a blow job. It may take several blow jobs or several years of giving them to gain control over your reflex, and even seasoned pros at fellatio gag sometimes. At first its unsettling and challenging. Your eyes will water, and your nose may run—some partners find this sexy. But with time, practice, and comfort with oral sex, you can learn to overcome your bodys natural instinct to push back at whatevers pushing in. No one ever overcomes it completely, but there are techniques that help, and staying cool-headed is important.

> > > I try to deep throat, but my stomach always churns. What I do is take him really deep for one stoke, then not deep for a few, then deep again for one stroke. Guys really love this, and they dont seem to notice that its for only one stroke that theyre really deep.

Learn to make incorporate your anti-gagging techniques into your act. The Flying Wallendas were the greatest tightrope walkers in the history of circus performance. They believed that when learning tightrope, one should avoid the aid of tethers or nets, so as not to get too dependent upon them. The thinking was that if you came to rely on these aids, you would take their existence for granted and someday forget that they werent there, and fall. This encouraged them to practice falling, to the extent that they made falling into an art form. When they fell during performances, they would slip and cling to the rope with such style and grace that everyone believed it was all part of the act. You can do the same with gagging, a potentially unsexy response to an intimate sex act: when you feel yourself beginning to gag, make pulling him out of your mouth and taking a rest until the feeling subsides part of your act. Learn techniques for overcoming your gag reflex in chapter 9, "Deep Throat."

Rhythm: The Essence of a Blow Job

As you sense his excitement building, narrow your focus onto one or a combination of two specific stroke techniques he likes. Using these, establish a beat—a consistent and predictable rhythm with the strokes. When using one stroke, go at a steady pace and try gradual increases and decreases of your tempo. With two stroke combinations, use one for five or six beats (strokes), then switch to the other stroke for the same amount of time and back again. For instance, you can bob up and down the length of his shaft using your hand pressed to your lips and a little suction, then switch to holding the head in your mouth while you stroke with your hand, then switch back.

Men differ in their rhythm preferences, and youll find that he may require an increase, decrease, or no change at all in order to achieve orgasm. You can find out by asking if he wants it faster or slower, but dont interrupt the activity too much or youll risk decreasing the heightened state youve got him in—keep stroking him with your hand if you pause to ask. You might ask him to masturbate for you; watching what he does right before he orgasms is extremely instructional. But these options arent always available, and sometimes youll just have to pay very close attention to his response. When you make a change and see his pre-orgasmic tension increase or decrease, youll know. Some men will love a steady, firm, driving rhythm, then want a few quick strokes to make them come. Others wont require any change at all and will orgasm in one fluid movement during one of your strokes. Your rhythm (and how its used) is whats going to make him come, so tune in to his body language (that is, if hes not disturbing the neighbors with his cries and moans of pleasure), and watch for the signs of imminent orgasm.

Bump and Grind: Pre-Orgasmic Body Language

> > > Wanting to be the gentleman, I announced well before the fact that I was getting ready to cream. Much to my surprise and joy, she did not stop sucking…

An oncoming orgasm in a man can take many forms. He might be the vocal type, telling you hes about to come, or his moans and yummy noises could reach an audible crescendo. There are physiological signs, too. His muscles may tense in different parts of his body, such as thighs, jaw, abdomen, hands, and feet. In most men, the testicles retract, hugging the body, and the penis stiffens to its fullest point before the rhythmic contractions of orgasm begin. His hips might begin to thrust, or he might grind his pelvis in your face—sometimes quickly, in rough jerks, but sometimes the movement is subtle and barely perceptible. He could slowly seem to be getting closer and closer to your face, maybe even pushing you down a little bit—or a lot!

> > > I love to swallow. When a guy comes in my mouth, I know hes lost control and its so hot, I just want to drink every drop.

This is the time when a number of things can happen. He is about to ejaculate, and its up to you where you want it to go—not only should it go where you want it, but he should come where and in whatever way turns you on. You could wait until the initial pulses and spasms begin, then pull back slightly as he comes on your tongue or lips. Or you might relish the taste and feel of him coming deep in your mouth or throat, swallowing it as he orgasms. Many people find it hot to have him come on their face, breasts, stomach, or hands, or into their open mouth, and even enjoy the association with porns "money shots," finding that it adds to the heat of the encounter. If you hold your mouth still and close your throat, you can hold his come in your mouth and swallow it when the moment passes—or not. Pulling your head back and bringing him to orgasm with you hand is another option. Jack him off onto or into any area you want, and enjoy the show.

> > > He can come on me anywhere—yum! I dont care. My tits, face, in my mouth, stomach… as long as hes coming on or in me I dont care.

Many people enjoy it when their lover comes in their mouth, but not everyone does, and those who do like it dont always want to do it every time. When youre with a lover youre familiar with, you may recognize his bodys signals that an orgasm is imminent, or you may have an agreed-upon signal. If you know you dont want him coming in your mouth and youve agreed on a signal, this is the time youll get that signal. Then you can move him out of your mouth so he comes elsewhere. Not infrequently at this stage, men put their hands on your head, sometimes involuntarily. For many men, touching your head is affectionate; it feels good to connect with you and be fully present in the activity. Their intention may be to guide your head faster, slower, or deeper. But sometimes it feels inappropriate. If you dont like this or it makes you feel uncomfortable, you dont have to stop the session; simply move his hands to your shoulders or onto his own body. If you like the guidance or relish having him take control, then this is the right time to let go, and having his hands on your head provides the perfect way to do it.

> > > I used to get freaked out thinking about the possibility of him putting his hands on the back of my head. But now when my boyfriend does it, its like he just wants the contact with me, and he strokes my hair and face. Its sweet and turns me on!

When hes bucking or grinding and you know that an orgasm is right around the corner, do what you can to hang on and keep doing whatever it is youre doing. Dont stop! Hang on to his hips or buttocks if youre worried about getting bucked off, or conversely, you can control his thrusts if hes going overboard. Gripping him like this can really increase his pleasure, and some guys go crazy being held onto this way. He might also like to have his thighs immobilized before orgasm: simply hold them firmly still. Also try putting his legs together. If thrusting is unwanted, have him lie on his back for fellatio, and with your hand on his shaft you can position your forearms on his hips, using your body weight to keep his hips down. If after all the bucking and grinding is over you feel like a cowpoke with whiplash, you may want to talk about it later.

Orgasm

When he orgasms, the delightful contractions begin, and youll feel the muscles in his cock spasm as ejaculate is released. A man can have many types of orgasms; some men can orgasm without ejaculation, when soft, or without any muscular contractions in their penises. Men with disabilities such as spinal cord injuries may experience "phantom orgasms" elsewhere in the body. Orgasms vary in length, on average anywhere from five seconds to three minutes. Some orgasms are sweat-drenched, roof-raising events; others pass with barely a sigh of released breath and a lovely glow to his cheeks—and theres everything in between.

For people who use condoms with oral sex, spitting or swallowing isnt an issue, but everyone else needs to take a minute before the act even begins to decide what they want to do. Communication is crucial no matter what you decide. If its okay, let him know so that he can completely relax when orgasm is close—some men are acutely aware that not everyone wants to swallow and can get anxious prior to orgasm if you havent talked about it. If its not okay, or if youre just not sure, tell him. Most men will be glad you brought it up (and if theyre not, kick them right out of bed). If you dont tell him and you try to hide an unpleasant reaction when he orgasms, you run the risk of hurting his feelings. Instead, tell him that youre not sure you want him to come in your mouth, and ask him to give you a tap on the shoulder or tell you when he is about to come.

> > > When I suck a guy off I swallow his cum. Spitting it out is too much trouble, plus my swallowing makes him really happy.

When you want to avoid him coming in your mouth, move your mouth off of him and continue stroking his penis with your hand. He can ejaculate elsewhere:

> > • He can come on your closed lips.

> > • He can ejaculate onto other sexy places, such as your neck or chest.

> > • You can use both hands to stroke him to orgasm, then let one hand linger at the head and catch it when he comes.

> > • You can allow him to come in your mouth, but into the side of your mouth, your cheek. The ejaculate misses your tongue, where the taste buds can trigger a sensitive gag reflex. Then you can discreetly spit it into the hand on his penis.

> > > One time he came in my mouth and I didnt think I could deal with it, but at the last minute his penis slipped into my cheek and he came there, instead of on my tongue or in my throat. It was totally different, and easier.

During orgasm you may be either pushed away from his penis, or pulled closer to maximize penis-mouth contact. He might love having you continue to stroke him all the way through his orgasm, but some men find that the head is extremely sensitive right after orgasm and can barely stand the slightest movement. Slowing your motions and stopping as he is coming is a good idea; most men will stop you if it feels too intense and they want you to hold still. You can lightly kiss and lick his cock after he comes, or you can tenderly hold it in your mouth or hand for a few minutes. Then, make your way up to eye level and see what he feels like doing next—he may just need a few minutes to relax in his post-orgasmic haze. If hes sensitive about cleanliness and scent, wipe your face with a damp washcloth (the one you thoughtfully placed by the bed earlier) before you kiss him on the face or lips.

> > > She pulled up my underpants and pants, rezipped, buttoned, and buckled them, and lay down on my chest. We hugged and kissed, and I could smell the strong scent of my sperm from deep in her throat, and taste it on her lips and tongue.

Boys Will Be Boys

by Alison Tyler

We form a perfect union when we 69. Jarred on top and me on the bottom, cocks between lips, hands moving and roaming. The fact that hes black and Im white simply adds to the theme. Photo negatives. Mirror images. Reflections in still water.

There are plenty of occasions when we dont take our time. Moments when its all about the end. All about shooting, creaming, and then collapsing. During those times, the romance of our relationship fades and we just f-u-c-k—fuck. Slam into each other with everything weve got. Sweaty, groping, fists and fingers, eyes shut, mouths open.

But now, in the late-afternoon light, we are in love, and we take things slowly. I caress the sweet, swollen head of his cock using only my full lips, wet from a single lick. No tongue yet. Cradling the rounded head, teasing it with the slippery kisses that I know will make him want to go fast. He rewards—or is it tortures?—me with the same behavior. Millimeter by millimeter, he works his dreamy mouth over the tip of my throbbing dick before finally sliding his lips down the shaft.

More slowly, I suck him, paying attention to every single sensation as I pump my mouth up and down. His earthy taste, his honey smell, the way his balls hang down, the way he groans when I graze them with my fingers or tug them gently as I suck a little harder.

When I become so focused on every second, I realize that I am paying attention to more than just Jarred. More than just sex. In the still afternoon, I am aware. The mattress is firm beneath me. The sound of an old jazz record plays in the apartment next door, scritch-scratching every few bars in a way that a CD cant. The rhythm of Jarreds breathing seems to match the music. The one thing I forget about is me. I am gone, no longer important, no longer a player.

That is, until Jarred uses his teeth.

Not to bite, but to nip, so lightly that I feel I am going to cry. Its unlike any other thing he does. Unlike any other sensation Ive ever experienced. He lets his lips part, lets his tongue rest behind his lower teeth, and works me up and down with just the bare edges of his teeth, the very, very tips of them. Its like being cradled between the jaws of a lion.

I see pictures in my mind when he does this. I think of Jarred at his studio, surrounded by sculptures in progress, surrounded by stone, by wet clay. I think of him with his abundant utensils and interesting tools, scratching softly in the surface. Then digging a little deeper. Making a mark.

To him, I know, I am a work in progress, a piece of art that calls out to be completed. And with his little tricks he claims me, names me, his voice a rumble behind my cock as he starts to talk.

"Suck harder," he says in a tone that is almost a whisper. "Suck me like you mean it, Michael." The rumbling vibrations of his words against my skin send me higher, and I do as he asks. My mouth closes in, the walls of my throat become tight. I am a vacuum. I am a machine. Slow becomes fast as I slide my mouth back and forth, giving him everything he wants. Who am I to hold back? Who am I to withhold pleasure?

Lips, tongue, sweet, wet mouth. Hard, soft, changing like the light changes in the room. Like the music changes one wall away. We are in tune. We are jazz. In perfect synch, we work each other. His bone moves deeper, deeper into my throat, and I swallow as forcefully as I can against him. I want to drain him. I want to devour him.

He echoes every motion. Until I forget who started what. Until I forget where I end and he begins. And then one of us does something new, and off we go on another route. My hand now around the base of his cock, holding tight there as I lick the tip. His fingers pressing up behind my balls, teasing me there, when he knows just a little pressure at that magic spot will make me want to fuck him. Roll over and just fuck him. Its like this forever. Slip-sliding up to the climax and then back down from it.

My mouth is a hungry beast, and I swallow on him once again. Jarred wont let me get away with that. He uses the whole flat of his tongue to massage and caress underneath the head of my cock, so that I release him completely and loll back on the mattress, unable to move because it feels so fucking good.

We are playing a game without rules.

Playing like boys do, to see who will win.


Input: The passage discusses various positions for performing fellatio and the advantages and disadvantages of each. It also covers techniques for dealing with jaw cramp, fellatio for injured or disabled people, and how to give head to a strap-on dildo. To generate this passage, a prompt could be: "Write a guide on different positions for performing fellatio, including the benefits and drawbacks of each position. Also, provide tips on dealing with jaw cramp, performing fellatio for injured or disabled people, and how to give head to a strap-on dildo."

Response:
CHAPTER 8

Any Way You Want It

Nothing is more fun than having choices and possibilities—and fellatio is amazingly adaptable to environment, preference, and personal style. You can custom-tailor a session of head to suit your needs or your partners needs in almost any way imaginable. A position can enhance physical pleasure or a conjured fantasy. Fellatio can be the ticket to overcoming physical obstacles, such as a disability. You can use fellatio performed on a strap-on to set fire to an already sizzling sex life. Or, you can explore the ways to customize your physical approach to giving head to make it more comfortable, combat jaw fatigue, or strengthen your skills by learning how to take a penis or dildo all the way in your mouth and throat: learning to "deep throat."

Positions

Fellatio feels good to the recipient in pretty much any angle you choose to give it, and there are a lot of positions to choose from. As a sex act it affords the uniqueness of being able to be performed virtually anywhere. Because its so versatile, the positions you can use vary greatly, and they can depend on location and circumstance. Trying fellatio in new locations and new positions can spice things up; a change in your routine or simply trying something you havent tried before can make the experience a bigger turn-on for both of you than your previous oral escapades.

Illustration 8. Anytime, Anywhere

Each position has advantages and disadvantages. Certain positions will afford you more access to his genitals, might make it easier for you to take more of him in your mouth, or may give you a psychological rush with their fantasy implications. However, you may find that some positions make you gag more than others because of the angle, are tough on your knees or jaw, or cause you to feel uncomfortable for other reasons. One thing to keep in mind when you consider positions is that you may be in any given position for a good amount of time, so you will want to take into account how comfortable youll be after, say, fifteen minutes or longer. There is no established amount of time to orgasm for men, or women for that matter, and if you think that men orgasm reliably and quickly as a rule, then youre in for a surprise—and maybe some leg and neck cramps while youre at it. Choose positions that are comfy for the two of you, and dont be shy about changing positions or moving him around in different configurations.

The Consummate Position

> > > Ive always found it works best with him lying down or leaning back, and to kneel beside him approaching him perpendicularly.

The position that lends itself easily to variety and comfort is having him lie on his back with a pillow under his head on a bed, the ground, a couch, or any flat spot. It provides the best access to his entire genital area and allows him to lie back and completely relax and enjoy. This position allows you to easily include his testicles in the action, or incorporate penetration, rimming, pressure points, or any other tricks you have in store. You can place yourself between his legs, or move around his body as you like. If youre on your stomach, this position can get a little tiresome on your neck, but you can alleviate strain by changing positions, using these variations:

> > • On your stomach between his legs, prop yourself up on your elbows and grasp his buttocks or hips.

> > • With your elbows propped, have him put one or both legs over your shoulders.

> > • Have him hold his knees to his chest.

> > • Have him place his feet on your shoulders.

> > • Kneel or crouch between his legs, leaving your hands free to help, wander, tease.

> > • With his legs spread around you, keep your hands on his groin area and press his hips down using your forearms and the weight of your body on his hips.

> > • Wrap your arms under his thighs, and toward you over his hips. You can guide his cock easily from this position.

> > • Sit on his legs, forcing them flat and rendering them immobile.

> > • Lick from a right angle, one side or the other. You can kneel, crouch, lie sideways, or adjust pillows under you for comfort. You can face him, or face his feet.

> > • Sit on his chest, facing away from him. He gets a nice view, you get access to him, and the angle is good for alleviating the gag reflex.

On Your Knees, Now

> > > My first time sucking cock was quick and nasty, and now thats the way I like it best.

When most folks think of fellatio, the image of someone on their knees comes readily to mind. At some point in your fellatio adventures, youre bound to wind up on your knees, whether your lover is standing or seated. Kneeling might be the best possible choice for a given situation or circumstance—for instance, if youre outdoors, being spontaneous in the bathroom, shoving him up against a wall and having your way with him, or engaging in a "quickie." Your hands are free to roam, fondle testicles, guide his penis, or pull him into your mouth by his hips or buttocks. But kneeling isnt for everyone, because it is tough on the knees—though you may be having so much fun you dont notice until its all over. If your knees ache or strain but you dont want to give up the position, switch to crouching or squatting. Crouching also makes it easier to masturbate while you fellate.

More Positions

SEATED

He can sit on the edge of a bed, chair, table, kitchen counter, car seat, staircase…anywhere. You can kneel on the floor with pillows under your knees, squat, or if hes up high enough, sit on a low chair or stool. This position is ideal for the comfort and access it provides.

SIDEWAYS

You can both lie sideways, and you can prop pillows under your head for comfort.

"SITING ON YOUR FACE."

He doesnt actually sit on your face; he puts his knees on either side of your upper torso and sits on your chest, with his penis in your face. He can also hover above your face so you can also lick his balls, suck them into your mouth, and tongue his perineum, though rimming is difficult from this angle. He can provide the thrusts, or stay still while you move your head and hands. Your hands can travel over his entire lower torso and can easily play with his ass.

THE 69 (SIMULTANEOUS RECIPROCAL ORAL SEX).

There are a couple of options for this favorite: him on top, on hands and knees over you; you on top (same thing reversed); or both of you on your sides, which may be the most comfortable of the three. Experiment with this one to see what you both like—in fact, you should experiment with all of these positions, over and over…

> > > I had a girlfriend who loved to 69. She actually often forgot the up-and-down sucking motion; she got off on having her clit licked while my cock was in her mouth. Shed lie on top of me and grind her pussy against my face and just hold my erection in her mouth. I wasnt really complaining!

> > >
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> > > One time he asked to 69 with me on top, and that was the best that I remember. It was such a turn-on to know he just really enjoyed having my penis in his mouth, plus I could thrust and get the sensations that I enjoyed. Sucking his dick and fucking his mouth with long, slow strokes is something I wont forget.

> > > What He Can Do When Youre in the 69 Position

> > > > > • Give you head, of course.

> > > > > • Spank you.

> > > > > • Penetrate you vaginally or anally with his fingers or a sex toy.

> > > > > • Nothing, if hes tied up.

ON YOUR BACK

If you lie on your back, with your head tilted back off the edge of a bed or sofa, your throat is stretched and much more open than in any other position. Many people prefer this for deep throating and say it reduces the gag factor. He is standing and doing the thrusting, but you can still use your hands.

Illustration 9. Head Tilted Back

DOGGIE-STYLE

This position isnt just for penetrative sex. Lick him from behind while hes on hands and knees, pulling and sucking his penis back between his legs. Not all guys find this comfortable, but those who do will delight that you can also play with their testicles and perineum, and can fully explore rimming and anal play.

Jaw Cramp

Once youve got your stroke and rhythm going, and youre in the position of choice, youre in it for the duration. How long is that? Sorry—theres no answer to that question. It could be a few short strokes and then he explodes, or he could last longer than an all-day sucker—or he might not come at all. These scenarios are all possible, and because it takes as long as it takes, you might have a mouthful for longer than you thought. The natural, though unpleasant, side effect of it all is that your tongue may cramp, your jaw may ache, and your neck might get tired. Fellatio can put strain on jaw and neck muscles like no other sex act, which is why its important that you start out in a comfortable position, especially if you have injuries or TMJ, or just plain get crampy muscles. The irony is, when it seems like youre just about to collapse hes usually on the verge of exploding, and no insurance company under the sun will cover your fellatio-related repetitive stress injury (RSI).

Like a distance runner, always pace yourself from the start and keep a steady, slow, methodical pace. Enthusiastic cocksucking is always appreciated, but if you start slowly, you can save your energy for the finish, where it may be needed most. When your neck, arms, or jaw begin to ache, change positions. If the cramps in your neck or jaw become painful, pause to stroke him with your hand and give your mouth and neck a rest. You can also break up the action by taking a minute or two to lick his balls, kiss his thighs, perineum, or torso, or add a sex toy to your play. Be creative with your breaks. If youre in pain, or know that your neck is going to be complaining, plan ahead to use pillows for comfort or choose positions that dont require you to hold your head up, such as lying on your back with him straddling your chest.

Fellatio for Injured or Disabled People

An injury that impairs movement, comfort, or response to stimulation can affect the choices we make when fellatio is on the menu. When either you or your lover are physically limited in some way, sometimes a blow job is the best (or only) kind of sex play you can feasibly engage in—and we all know that most injuries, even painful ones, dont interfere with lust or horniness. Wanting to get off when youve got something you need to work around, such as a cast, a strained back, or limited privacy, just means you need to get a little more creative.

When youre hurting or limited in your movement, props, bolsters, and pillows are your erotic handmaidens. People with neck injuries should choose positions that support the head: sideways 69 with a pillow under your head, man on top, having him stand while youre seated, or sitting reverse in a high-backed chair with him on a higher surface. Folks with back injuries already know how pillows provide relief under their knees, and pillows can also go between the knees of whoevers hurting and lying sideways—let comfort in nonsexual situations be your guide. You may even end up on your back with your head and back piled on pillows, like a pasha, as your lover thrusts into your mouth, but if it feels good, who minds? Also, for back pain, make use of furniture such as low stools, which can be used bedside—or anywhere, for that matter.

Men with disabilities will have varying capacities for receiving oral stimulation, but this depends on the type of disability and, if it is progressive, how far it has progressed. Needless to say, you should never consider a disabled man asexual—were all pleasure-seekers, no matter what type of house we live in. Disabilities fit into various categories: mobility, communication, deafness, vision impairment, or other diagnosed conditions such as multiple sclerosis, diabetes, or attention deficit disorder (ADD).

A man with multiple sclerosis might find genital stimulation pleasurable but may have difficulty achieving orgasm, he may be combating fatigue, and erections may not be possible, or reliable—but do not assume that if he doesnt have an erection, hes not enjoying himself. The common mistake the medical community makes time and again when encountering sex, men, and MS in the same sentence is reducing everything to terms of erectile dysfunction. Lets toss yet another oversimplification of male sexuality right out. MS is a disease of the central nervous system (brain and spinal cord), and it interferes with erections. It can cause numbing or tingling sensations in the genitals, difficulty feeling or achieving orgasms, and fatigue, and it can make focusing on stimulation difficult. Because it affects the pathways from brain to genitals, willed sexual response becomes less reliable; reflexive responses (involuntary erection, orgasm, sensation) can remain intact. And these things can change over time. Because some men with MS may experience pain during stimulation, communication about sex is essential. Some things may feel wonderful for a few weeks, then unpleasant for a while. Talking about how things feel to him, and becoming comfortable with talking about oral sex while youre doing it, makes oral sex better—and hotter.

Diabetes can also affect sexual functions; its not unheard of for a man to see his doctor about erection issues only to discover he has diabetes. The reasons the disease interferes with his sexuality vary, but vascular disease (a frequent diabetes complication) can reduce blood flow and affect erection, neuropathy can cause nerve damage and reduce sensation, orgasm may become increasingly difficult to achieve, and ejaculation may not occur. Oral sex may still feel delightful; be sure to check in with him about varying your levels of stimulation.

ADD sufferers will find that their mind is racing uncontrollably when they want to be relaxing and enjoying fellatio—their brain is traveling at warp speed when they just want to sustain a fantasy, watch you work, or focus on orgasm. Treatment for ADD can help, but because many of the prescribed pharmaceuticals inhibit erection and/or orgasm, you should stress the importance of sexual functioning to your doctor before the prescription is written.

For some paraplegic and quadriplegic men, sexual function is impaired, but for others its not impaired at all. Perhaps the fun is in finding out! If there is some impairment, its possible that function and feeling can be increased over time—practice, anyone? After a spinal cord injury, the spinal center for sexual functioning is generally intact; its the communication center from brain to spinal center thats usually disrupted. Unless some sensation in the area of his genitals remains, the usual sensation of orgasm is lost, and erections and ejaculation will be involuntary if they occur, though he may experience phantom orgasm elsewhere in his body. A playful, communicative partner makes all the difference in the world.

Keep Your Lipstick Perfect

Those of us who do our best to get through a cocktail party or dinner out while keeping lipstick a) on, and b) where its supposed to stay—on our lips—have unique concerns when it comes to giving head. Of course, women in the movies go down, come up, and its as if nothing happened. But when we try it in real life, it winds up looking like a car wreck between us and his cock. Fortunately for us, a higher power invented the drag queen.

Drag queens brought the technology of stay-put lipsticks from the theater to the streets. The best, though difficult to find, is a liquid used in the theater called Lip Set by Signature Solutions. You apply your lipstick (sorry, no gloss under or over), paint it on with the supplied brush, and let it dry. Then you have perfect lipstick that you can do anything with for four to six hours. There is a version of this same product from a different company, sold in drugstores, that comes in a roll-on applicator. It works for only about two hours, and sadly, your lipstick comes off right away when you give a blow job—due largely, I think, to the imprecise application of the roll-on. Some more commercially available options come from major cosmetic companies, sold under the heading of "stay put" lipsticks. These come in a variety of colors, and some can survive pretty heavy make-out sessions—perfect for our purposes. Cover Girls Outlast was the best competitor for Lip Set, and I might add that the testing was rigorous.

How to Go Down on a Strap-On

Strap-on sex isnt just for breakfast anymore: not only are all types of people experimenting with strap-on sex, but theyre not just using it for vaginal or anal penetration. Strap-on sex refers to having sex with a dildo and harness. You and your partner get a harness made to fit a dildo, and a dildo thats the size and shape of your preference, and one of you wears it during sex. The common conception is that only lesbian couples use strap-ons (and they do) but gay men also strap it on every now and then, and in increasing numbers, hordes of straight couples are adding strap-ons to their sex lives.

There are many contexts for strap-on use. In lesbian sex, strap-ons can be used to enhance fantasy play, to delineate roles, or simply for hands-free penetration. Gay men strap it on for the same reasons, but the harness is worn differently; either it is worn above the penis, or the harness has room for penis and testicles to hang freely. Straight men can employ a dildo and harness for a variety of reasons (for instance, erectile dysfunctions), or the female partner can wear the harness and penetrate her male lover in any context that turns the two of them on. Strap-ons are great whenever you want an extra erection, and they are highly erotic visually for both the wearer and the intended recipient.

Women or men who are inclined to give or receive head with a strap-on dildo may find that the subject brings up some interesting questions about their own (or their partners) gender roles. Some folks find this titillating; swapping or sharing roles for a hot round of sex play opens whole new doors of sexual arousal and fantasy, which for some people is an aphrodisiac. However, others find that the very idea of opening these doors makes them uncomfortable. The notion of having the gender they identify with reshaped for a sexual fantasy may be felt as a challenge to who they are—at the very core of their being. For them, its not okay to play with this stuff, and not fun to even think about it. If you find yourself accidentally stumbling across an emotional land mine, backtrack, be a supportive listener, and let it go. There are plenty of other ways to have fun with your lover.

Fellatio lends itself perfectly to strap-on sex. One look at your lover in a sexy harness, all buckles and straps, with an erect member jutting suggestively from their body, and its difficult to resist the temptation to swallow them whole. Many of the same principles, tricks, and skills apply to fellating a dildo on your lover as to going down on an actual cock. You can create any context for the encounter you like: you can be in control and taking charge of that cock, or out of control and being used like a toy, you can demonstrate your naughty skills to your lover, or you can tenderly be making love to every inch of them. Reading up on techniques in other chapters of the book, such as types of strokes, controlling your gag reflex, or positioning, will give you a lot of the information you need when you go down. But the important difference in giving head to a strap-on is that you will approach the techniques you apply from a different angle: instead of being focused on the way the penis feels, youre focused on how the owner sees you.

When you suck strap-on cock, youre putting on a show, and making the wearer feel hot in that harness—and its probably a big turn-on for you, too. See how you treat the dildo visually, and maintain plenty of eye contact, employ very visual oral techniques, and use your hands a lot. Your hands can roam, jerk the dildo off in your face, or grab your lovers hips to pull them into you, or they can stimulate the wearer beneath the harness (though you should make sure this is okay before you try it—some people dont want that type of stimulation, so ask permission first). The way you give head to a dildo is different for the reasons I just mentioned, but strap-on fellatio is also unique in that you arent necessarily giving a blow job that ends with an orgasm. Youre down there until you or your lover decide youre finished, or you both decide to switch activities.

Harnesses and dildos can be bought in adult sex toy stores, though for good quality and ease of use, you can find better toys in the more upscale shops, boutiques, and stores that cater to women (see chapter 13, "Resources," for stores). When choosing a harness, determine your price range, which material youd like it made of (leather, fabric, neoprene), and how youd like to wear it. Do you want an opening for access to your genitals, do you prefer a snug or very adjustable fit, do you want it to be easy to conceal beneath your clothes? Dildos come in more shapes, sizes, and colors than you can imagine, but be sure you purchase one made to be worn in a harness, and that it will fit into the harness you want. Dildos that can be worn with a harness have wide, circular bases to help them stay put. Most of the all-in-one strap-on units youll find in mainstream adult toy stores are cheaply made and not worth your money—skip em. Read more about sex toys and materials in chapter 10, "More Techniques." One nice thing about purchasing the penis youre going to fellate is that you can practice in private before the main event—highly recommended!

Back Alley Baby

by Alison Tyler

"Do we want one made from neon pink jelly?" Chelsea murmurs. "Or a black-and-white marble swirl?"

I giggle as my lover points to a cock as long as my forearm. Wouldnt want to play hide-and-seek with that. Still, the crazier the space-age colors, the odder the textures, the wetter my panties. Who would have guessed that shopping for a sex toy would be this much of a turn-on? And its not just because were in a hip, sex-positive store surrounded by helpful salesgirls who look as if they wrote the manual on fucking. No, what really appeals to me is the same thing I find alluring about the Nordstrom shoe department: the outrageous selection. I mean, there are literally hundreds of different types of toys to choose from. Were not just talking length and girth, but colors, features, materials.

"How about that one?" Chelsea asks, obviously teasing as she indicates a monstrous devil-red number decorated with rounded bumps and a cynical smile.

I wonder who would choose a dildo like that, and suddenly, Im no longer centered on the thought of the two us shopping for a sex toy. Im lost in the thought of all the different people who have considered these items in the past, who have chosen the one they wanted and taken their precious treasures home to play with. What type of woman would like the dildo with the rabbit ears? Who would choose the double-headed U-shaped creation that can fill two holes at once?

"This one," Chelsea says finally, and I realize with a tightness in my chest that shes right. It doesnt actually look like a penis. Too smooth. Too perfectly rocket shaped. Too sapphire blue.

I nod and watch the sultry brunette sales chick pluck a box from a high-up shelf, handing over the toy and a harness to Chelsea in exchange for her credit card. Pussy, I think, be still. We have to get home before you can get served.

That admonition doesnt stop my clit from twitching or my cheeks from flushing neon-pink as Chelsea whispers in my ear. "Youre going to get this nice and wet for me, arent you, girl?"

"Mm hmmm."

"Wet with your hungry mouth."

"Mm hmmm," I say again.

"Wet back there in the alley—"

Now, I pause, but she doesnt. With a request spoken in undertone to the pierced sales dyke, she disappears behind a door that says Employees Only. When she returns, I immediately sense that something has changed. Her stride is different in her indigo boot-cut jeans. Her gray eyes are glowing. Empty-handed, she leads me in a pony-step out the door and around the corner. Presses me up against the chipped brick wall between two gray metal dumpsters, opens her fly with a single tug, and then pushes me down on my knees.

Dirty, my mind screams. Not X-rated dirty. Not sinful dirty. But filthy dirty. Crumpled newspapers wafting around us. Garbage smells. Creatures rustling unseen but heard.

"Suck it."

Working that luscious rod around in my mouth, I am transported. The toy is so blue, and smooth, and delicious as it slides between my lips that I forget everything else. In public, we are alone. My hot tongue slips up and down, tickling the tip, learning the curves. Deep throating something this silky smooth seems the most natural thing in the world. I go down, down, down on it. Fucking that toy with my mouth. Showing Chelsea exactly how much I want to please her.

"Get it really wet," my lover says, and now my mind is overwhelmed by a completely new—and very selfish—thought. How sweet this plaything will feel when it meets my cunt. "Get it wetter than wet," she whispers. "Wetter than me."

At her words I realize how aroused Chelsea is already. Putting one hand up to her gently rounded inner thighs, I stroke softly there as I suck on her. Christ, its good. My fingers finding her swollen clit up under the harness and tapping on it as I keep up the steady ride with my mouth. My lips play tricks over the tip. My throat contracts. There is motion out at the end of the alley. Peripherally, I make out the blur of sunflower-yellow taxi cabs, the medley of colors as pedestrians crowd along the cracked concrete. But in my little world, there is only one thing: the blue, smooth sex toy between my parted lips.

"Get it all wet," Chelsea says. "Get it ocean wet."

I am. I know where its going, and I know what to do. I want to feel this alien object probing my inner walls. But first, I want to suck and suck and suck. Why? I dont know. The hot pulse of sex in that store started me off. Chelseas teasing glances as she played with all the different paraphernalia. And the fact that she chose the right toy without hesitation. Understanding that I didnt want real, I wanted cool.

But its warm now. Warm from my wet mouth, as my pussy is warm in my cargo pants. Chelsea will take care of me. I have faith. When shes good and ready, shell whip me around so my palms are splayed on the brick wall of the store, and shell lower my slacks and slide aside my lacy lipstick-red thong, and thrust this space-age toy into my pussy.

For now, I do what she wants. Licking, sucking. Slurping on her hard blue rod, as only a back alley baby should.